This one is very revealing. But I read somewhere that George Washington's life has spanned a lifetime career of classic leadership tidbits salted with stonelike character built on solid foundation. At the age of 16, who would have thought re-writing a book, and applying its principles as well! I am posting it here for posterity purposes:
The Rules of Civility and Decent Behaviour in Company and Conversation
by George Washington
1. Every action done in company ought to be with some sign of respect to those that are present.
2. When in company, put not your hands to any part of the body not usually discovered.
3. Show nothing to your friend that may affright him.
4. In the presence of others, sing not to yourself with a humming voice, or drum with your fingers or feet.
5. If you cough, sneeze, sigh, or yawn, do it not loud but privately, and speak not in your yawning, but put your handkerchief or hand before your face and turn aside.
6. Sleep not when others speak; sit not when others stand; speak not when you should hold your peace; walk not on when others stop.
7. Put not off your clothes in the presence of others, nor go out your chamber half dressed.
8. At play and attire, it's good manners to give place to the last comer, and affect not to speak louder than ordinary.
9. Spit not into the fire, nor stoop low before it; neither put your hands into the flames to warm them, nor set your feet upon the fire, especially if there be meat before it.
10. When you sit down, keep your feet firm and even; without putting one on the other or crossing them.
11. Shift not yourself in the sight of others, nor gnaw your nails.
12. Shake not the head, feet, or legs; roll not the eyes; lift not one eyebrow higher than the other, wry not the mouth, and bedew no man's face with your spittle by [approaching too near] him [when] you speak.
13. Kill no vermin, or fleas, lice, ticks, etc. in the sight of others; if you see any filth or thick spittle put your foot dexterously upon it; if it be upon the clothes of your companions, put it off privately, and if it be upon your own clothes, return thanks to him who puts it off behavior or saluting, ought also to be observed in taking of place and sitting down for ceremonies without bounds are troublesome.
14. Turn not your back to others, especially in speaking; jog not the table or desk on which another reads or writes; lean not upon anyone.
15. Keep your nails clean and short, also your hands and teeth clean, yet without showing any great concern for them.
16. Do not puff up the cheeks, loll not out the tongue with the hands, or beard, thrust out the lips, or bite them, or keep the lips too open or too close.
17. Be no flatterer, neither play with any that delight not to be played withal.
18. Read no letter, books, or papers in company, but when there is a necessity for the doing of it, you must ask leave; come not near the books or writtings of another so as to read them unless desired, or give your opinion of them unasked,- also look not nigh when another is writing a letter.
19. Let your countenance be pleasant but in serious matters somewhat grave.
20. The gestures of the body must be suited to the discourse you are upon.
21. Reproach none for the infirmities of nature, nor delight to put them that have in mind of thereof.
22. Show not yourself glad at the misfortune of another though he were your enemy.
23. When you see a crime punished, you may be inwardly pleased; but [damaged manuscript] show pity to the suffering offender.
24.Do not laugh too loud or too much at any Publick Spectacle
25. Superfluous compliments and all affectation of ceremonies are to be avoided, yet where due they are not to be neglected.
26. In putting off your hat to persons of distinction, as noblemen, justices, churchmen, etc., make a reverence, bowing more or less according to the custom of the better bred, and quality of the persons; among your equals expect not always that they should begin with you first; but to pull off the hat when there is no need is affectation, in the manner of saluting and resaluting in word keep to the most usual custom.
27. 'Tis ill manners to bed one more eminent than yourself be covered, as well as not to do it to whom it is due. Likewise he that makes too much haste to put on his hat does not well, yet he ought to put it on at the first, or at most the second time of being asked; now what is herein spoken, of qualification in behavior or saluting ought to be taking place and sitting down for ceremonies without bounds are troublesome.
28. If any one come to speak to you while you are [are] sitting, stand up, though he be your inferior, and when you present seats, let it be to everyone according to his degree.
29. When you meet with one of greater quality than yourself, stop, and retire, especially if it be at a door or any straight place, to give way for him to pass.
30. In walking the highest place in most countries hand; therefore place yourself on the left of him whom you desire to honor: but if three walk together the middle place is the most honorable; the wall is usally given to the most worthy if two walk together.
31. If anyone far surpasses others, either in age, estate, or merits [and] would give place to a meaner than himself, the same ought not to accept it, s[ave he offer] it above once or twice.
32. To one that is your equal, or not much inferior, you are to give the chief place in your lodging, and he to whom it is offered ought at the first to refuse it, but at the second to accept though not without acknowledging his own unworthiness.
33. They that are in dignity or in office have in all places precedency, but whilst they are young, they ought to respect those that are their equals in birth or other qualities, though they have no public charge.
34. It is good manners to prefer them to whom we speak before ourselves, especially if they be above us, with whom in no sort we ought to begin.
35. Let your discours with men of business be short and comprehensive.
36. Artificers and persons of low degree ought not to use many ceremonies to lords or others of high degree, but respect and highly honor then, and those of high degree ought to treat them with affability and courtesy, without arrogance.
37. In speaking to men of quality do not lean nor look them full in the face, nor approach too near them at left. Keep a full pace from them.
38. In visiting the sick, do not presently play the physician if you be not knowing therein.
39. In writing or speaking, give to every person his due title according to his degree and the custom of the place.
40. Strive not with your superior in argument, but always submit your argument to others with modesty.
41. Undertake not to teach your equal in the art himself professes; it (manuscript damaged ) of arrogance.
42. Let thy ceremonies in Courtesie be proper to the Dignity of his place with whom thou conversest for it is absurd to act ye same with a Clown and a Prince
43. Do not express joy before one sick in pain, for that contrary passion will aggravate his misery.
44. When a man does all he can, though it succeed not well, blame not him that did it.
45. Being to advise or reprehend any one, consider whether it ought to be in public or in private, and presently or at some other time; in what terms to do it; and in reproving show no signs of cholor but do it with all sweetness and mildness.
46. Take all admonitions thankfully in what time or place soever given, but afterwards not being culpable take a time and place convenient to let him know it that gave them.
47. Mock not nor jest at any thing of importance. Break no jests that are sharp, biting,- and if you deliver any thing witty and pleasant, abstain from laughing thereat yourself.
48. Where in [wherein] you reprove another be unblameable yourself, -for example is more prevalent than precepts,
49. Use no reproachful language against any one; neither curse nor revile.
50. Be not hasty to believe flying reports to the disparagement of any.
51. Wear not your clothes foul, or ripped, or dusty, but see they be brushed
once every day at least and take heed that you approach not to any uncleanness.
52. In your apparel be modest and endeavor to accommodate nature, rather than to procure admiration; keep to the fashion of your equals, such as are civil and orderly with respect to time and places.
53. Run not in the streets, neither go too slowly, nor with mouth open; go not shaking of arms, nor upon the toes, nor in a dancing [damaged manuscript].
54. Play not the peacock, looking every where about you, to see if you be well decked, if your shoes fit well, if your stockings sit neatly and clothes handsomely.
55. Eat not in the streets, nor in your house, out of season.
56. Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation; for 'tis better to be alone than in bad company.
57. In walking up and down in a house, only with one in company if he be greater than yourself, at the first give him the right hand and stop not till he does and be not the first that turns, and when you do turn let it be with your face towards him; if he be a man of great quality walk not with him cheek by jowl but somewhat behind him but yet in such a manner that he may easily speak to you.
58. Let your conversation be without malice or envy, for 'tis a sign of a tractable and commendable nature, and in all causes of passion permit reason to govern.
59. Never express anything unbecoming, nor act against the rules before your inferiors.
60. Be not immodest in urging your friends to discover a secret.
61. Utter not base and frivolous things among grave and learned men, nor very difficult questions or subjects among the ignorant, or things hard to be believed; stuff not your discourse with sentences among your betters nor equals.
62. Speak not of doleful things in a time of mirth or at the table; speak not of melancholy things or death and wounds, and if others mention them, change if you can the discourse; tell not your dream, but to your intimate.
63. A Man ought not to value himself of his Achievements, or rare Qualities of wit; much less of his riches Virtue or Kindred
64. Break not a jest where none take pleasure in mirth; laugh not alone, nor at all without occasion; deride no man's misfortune though there seem to be some cause.
65. Speak not injurious words neither in jest nor earnest; scoff at none although they give occasion.
66. Be not froward but friendly and courteous, the first to salute, hear, and answer; and be not pensive when it's a time to converse.
67. Detract not from others, neither be excessive in commanding.
68. Go not thither, where you know not whether you shall be welcome or not; give not advice [without] being asked, and when desired do it briefly.
69. If two contend together take not the part of either unconstrained, and be not obstinate in your own opinion; in things indifferent be of the major side.
70. Reprehend not the imperfections of others,for that belongs to parents, masters, and superiors.
71. Gaze not on the marks or blemishes of others and ask not how they came. What you may speak in secret to your friend, deliver not before others.
72. Speak not in an unknown tongue in company but in your own language and that as those of quality do and not as the vulgar; sublime matters treat seriously-
73. Think before you speak; pronounce not imperfectly, nor bring out your words too hastily, but orderly and distinctly.
74. When another speaks, be attentive yourself; and disturb not the audience. If any hesitate in his words, help him not nor prompt him without desired; interrupt him not, nor answer him till his speech has ended.
75. In the midst of Discourse ask not of what one treateth but if you Perceive any Stop because of your coming you may well intreat him gently to Proceed: If a Person of Quality comes in while your Conversing it's handsome to Repeat what was said before.
76. While you are talking, point not with your finger at him of whom you discourse, nor approach too near him to whom you talk especially to his face.
77. Treat with men at fit times about business and whisper not in the company of others.
78. Make no comparisons and if any of the company be commended for any brave act of virtue, commend not another for the same.
79. Be not apt to relate news if you know not the truth thereof. In discoursing of things you have heard, name not your author always; a secret discover not. I
80. Be not tedious indiscourse or in reading unless you find the company pleased therewith.
81. Be not curious to know the affairs of others, neither approach those that speak in private.
82. Undertake not what you cannot perform but be careful to keep your promise.
83. When you deliver a matter do it without passion and with discretion, however mean the person be you do it to.
84. When your superiors talk to anybody neither speak nor laugh.
85. In company of those of higher quality than yourself, speak not 'til you are asked a question, then stand upright, put off your hat and answer in few words.
86. In disputes, be not so desirous to overcome as not to give liberty to one to deliver his opinion and submit to the judgment of the major part, specially if they are judges of the dispute.
87 Let thy carriage be such as becomes a Man Grave Settled and attentive to that which is spoken. Contradict not at every turn what others Say.
88. Be not diverse in discourse; make not many digressions; nor repeat often the same manner of discourse.
89. Speak not evil of the absent, for it is unjust.
90. Being set at meat scratch not, neither spit, cough, or blow your nose except there's a necessity for it.
91. Make no show of taking great delight in your the table; neither find great delight in your victuals; feed not with greediness; eat your bread with a knife; lean not on the table; neither find fault with what you eat.
92. Take no salt or cut bread with your knife greasy.
93. Entertaining anyone at table it is decent to present him with meat; undertake not to help others desired by the master.
94. If you soak bread in the sauce, let it be no more than what you put in your mouth at a time and blow not your broth at table; let it stay till it cools of itself.
95. Put not your meat to your mouth with your knife in your hand; neither spit forth the stones of any fruit pie upon a dish nor cast anything under the table.
96. It's unbecoming to heap much to one's meat keep your fingers clean; when foul wipe them on a corner of your table napkin.
97. Put not another bite into your mouth till the former be swallow; let not your morsels be too big.
98. Drink not nor talk with your mouth full; neither gaze about you while you are a drinking.
99. Drink not too leisurely nor yet too hastily. Before and after drinking wipe your lips; breathe not then or ever with too great a noise, for it is an evil.
100/ Cleanse not your teeth with the tablecloth, napkin, fork, or knife; but if others do it, let it be done without a peep to them.
101. Rinse not your mouth in the presence of others.
102. It is out of use to call upon the company often to eat; nor need you drink to others every time you drink.
103. In Company of your Betters be not longer in eating than they are lay not your Arm but only your hand upon the table
104. It belongs to the chiefest in company to unfold his napkin and fall to meat first; but he ought then to begin in time and to dispatch with dexterity that the slowest may have time allowed him.
105. Be not angry at table whatever happens and if you have reason to be so, show it not but on a cheerful countenance especially if there be strangers, for good humor makes one dish of meat and whey.
106. Set not yourself at the upper of the table but if it be your due, or that the master of the house will have it so, contend not, lest you should trouble the company.
107. If others talk at table be attentive but talk not with meat in your mouth.
108. When you speak of God or his Attributes, let it be seriously; reverence, honor and obey your natural parents although they be poor.
109. Let your recreations be manful not sinful.
110. Labor to keep alive in your breast that little spark of celestial fire called conscience.
Friday, December 28, 2007
Wednesday, December 26, 2007
Think Rich - Quick?
As I reflect of 2007, it dawned on me that the past 10 yrs of my working life was spent on being a corporate man.
In next 10, I plan to spend it on acquiring skills and training to be a self sustaining individual doing real estate
In next 10, I plan to spend it on acquiring skills and training to be a self sustaining individual doing real estate
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Seeing is believing
Most,if not all of John Maxwell's books, focuses on inner change of a person's character in order to lead effectively. Very true!!
He opines that in general - "People Do What People See." It deals with the importance of the examples leaders give to their people. You see, good leaders must communicate vision clearly, creatively, and continually. However, the vision doesn't come alive until the leader models it.
Good leaders are aware that others do what they do. And they always keep in mind that:
1. Followers are Always Watching What Leaders Do
2. It's Easier to Teach What's Right than to Do What's Right
3. We Should Work on Changing Ourselves Before Trying to Improve Others
4. The Most Valuable Gift a Leader Can Give is Being a Good Example
Leadership is more caught than taught. How does one "catch" leadership? By watching good leaders in action!
As we approach the end of calendar year, start thinking about the performance of the people you lead, stop for a moment of honest reflection and ask yourself this question: What kind of example am I setting?
If you're setting a high standard for integrity, competence, work ethic, and professional growth, if you're being all that you desire your people to be, then you're setting up yourself, your people, and your organization for success. If not, you need to make some changes, and fast.
Seeing is believing!
He opines that in general - "People Do What People See." It deals with the importance of the examples leaders give to their people. You see, good leaders must communicate vision clearly, creatively, and continually. However, the vision doesn't come alive until the leader models it.
Good leaders are aware that others do what they do. And they always keep in mind that:
1. Followers are Always Watching What Leaders Do
2. It's Easier to Teach What's Right than to Do What's Right
3. We Should Work on Changing Ourselves Before Trying to Improve Others
4. The Most Valuable Gift a Leader Can Give is Being a Good Example
Leadership is more caught than taught. How does one "catch" leadership? By watching good leaders in action!
As we approach the end of calendar year, start thinking about the performance of the people you lead, stop for a moment of honest reflection and ask yourself this question: What kind of example am I setting?
If you're setting a high standard for integrity, competence, work ethic, and professional growth, if you're being all that you desire your people to be, then you're setting up yourself, your people, and your organization for success. If not, you need to make some changes, and fast.
Seeing is believing!
Tell me who your friends are...
Have you heard of the old cliche which goes "Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are"? ..
I have proven this to be true once more. Why? Well, I have been fortunate to be part of a task force to complete a long-overdue project. The place happens in our socio-religous group I belong to.
Often, I have observed that things get done by tapping on this inner circle of friends or going with the unbreakable close-knit ties of friends. It worked!
The best part are the indelible memories which made our journey as leaders and friends all the more memorable. This experience reminded me of a favorite quote...
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First, I was dying to finish my high school and start college.
And then I was dying to finish college and start working.
Then I was dying to marry and have children.
And then I was dying for my children to grow old enough so I could go back to work.
But then i was dying to retire.
And now I’m dying …. and suddenly I realized I forgot to live.
- Anonymous
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Lee Iacocca said-"If there are 5 people who went to your funeral, then you have lived a fruitful life"
I guess I have aleady made past his counting. Well, thus far I have amassed 7 (2 couples + my wife and kids!!!). Good enough!
Of course...I am my friends!
I have proven this to be true once more. Why? Well, I have been fortunate to be part of a task force to complete a long-overdue project. The place happens in our socio-religous group I belong to.
Often, I have observed that things get done by tapping on this inner circle of friends or going with the unbreakable close-knit ties of friends. It worked!
The best part are the indelible memories which made our journey as leaders and friends all the more memorable. This experience reminded me of a favorite quote...
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First, I was dying to finish my high school and start college.
And then I was dying to finish college and start working.
Then I was dying to marry and have children.
And then I was dying for my children to grow old enough so I could go back to work.
But then i was dying to retire.
And now I’m dying …. and suddenly I realized I forgot to live.
- Anonymous
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Lee Iacocca said-"If there are 5 people who went to your funeral, then you have lived a fruitful life"
I guess I have aleady made past his counting. Well, thus far I have amassed 7 (2 couples + my wife and kids!!!). Good enough!
Of course...I am my friends!
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Motivational Quotes - For Leaders
These are 20 best quotes I have compiled thus far. Most are personal favorites. See if you agree...
1. The best contribution one can make to humanity is to improve oneself.
- Unknown.
2. Enery and persistence conquers all things
- Ben Franklin
3. Perfection does not exist, you can always do better and you can always grow.
- Les Brown.
4. The ability to write something down is the first step to making it happen.
- Lee Iacoca
5. Improve your business, your life, your relationships, your finances and your health. When you do, the whole world improves.
- Mark Victor Hansen
6. The biggest room in the world is the room for improvement.
- Unknown.
7. What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.
- Zig ziglar
8. Self education is the only education.
- Isaac Asimov
9. He who stops being better stops being good.
- Oliver Cromwell
10. You can't have a better tomorrow if you always think of yesterday.
- Charles F. Kettering
1. The best contribution one can make to humanity is to improve oneself.
- Unknown.
2. Enery and persistence conquers all things
- Ben Franklin
3. Perfection does not exist, you can always do better and you can always grow.
- Les Brown.
4. The ability to write something down is the first step to making it happen.
- Lee Iacoca
5. Improve your business, your life, your relationships, your finances and your health. When you do, the whole world improves.
- Mark Victor Hansen
6. The biggest room in the world is the room for improvement.
- Unknown.
7. What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.
- Zig ziglar
8. Self education is the only education.
- Isaac Asimov
9. He who stops being better stops being good.
- Oliver Cromwell
10. You can't have a better tomorrow if you always think of yesterday.
- Charles F. Kettering
Friday, October 26, 2007
Business Leadership
Today I had an interesting discussion with a family member. A few ideas were mooted which I think will redefine his career path in response to future job opportunities. These include:
1. BIG FISH BIG POND: Join advanced development of neural networks marrying concepts of robotics, electrical engineering, computer science, biology and mechanical engineering.
2. BIG FISH SMALL POND CONCEPT: Small pocket-sized customized IT solution to manual processes in the distribution industry.
I recalled advising him to either consider 1 and 2. And once his decision is made, focus every single effort and time to building up expertise in this area and doggedly pursue those.
Your thoughts??
1. BIG FISH BIG POND: Join advanced development of neural networks marrying concepts of robotics, electrical engineering, computer science, biology and mechanical engineering.
2. BIG FISH SMALL POND CONCEPT: Small pocket-sized customized IT solution to manual processes in the distribution industry.
I recalled advising him to either consider 1 and 2. And once his decision is made, focus every single effort and time to building up expertise in this area and doggedly pursue those.
Your thoughts??
Wednesday, October 03, 2007
Leadership and Competence: Nature or Nurture
What's your take?
For me, it is nature. Why?
1. You rely on your gut to make tough and critical decisions.
2. Emotions will play a large part when you hire people.
3. Heart and passion largely determines success and failures in projects/endeavors.
4. You naturally cling to people of 'your own liking/kind'.
5. You chose your partners largely due to the intense desire of your innermost being.
And most leadership books I read summarizes that to be an effective leader, use your heart more than your head. Need I say more..
What about you? What's your take?
For me, it is nature. Why?
1. You rely on your gut to make tough and critical decisions.
2. Emotions will play a large part when you hire people.
3. Heart and passion largely determines success and failures in projects/endeavors.
4. You naturally cling to people of 'your own liking/kind'.
5. You chose your partners largely due to the intense desire of your innermost being.
And most leadership books I read summarizes that to be an effective leader, use your heart more than your head. Need I say more..
What about you? What's your take?
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Leading a Presentation
If you're like me in the corporate world, presentations are a boon and a bane. To date, I can't remember how many times I've sat thru unproductive hours listening to worthless presentations by competent technical people.
With puzzled look and wary thoughts, I always relish the cue when speakers blurt out the 'summary' or 'conclusion' or 'recommendations' words. It literally sounded Halleluiah to me!!
And I like what I dug below. It summarizes 10 steps in creating a winning presentation to sell an idea. Go apply yourself and see what happens!
1. Problem
2. Your solution
3. Business model
4. Underlying magic/technology
5. Marketing and sales
6. Competition
7. Team
8. Projections and milestones
9. Status and timeline
10. Summary and call to action
Comments are welcome!
With puzzled look and wary thoughts, I always relish the cue when speakers blurt out the 'summary' or 'conclusion' or 'recommendations' words. It literally sounded Halleluiah to me!!
And I like what I dug below. It summarizes 10 steps in creating a winning presentation to sell an idea. Go apply yourself and see what happens!
1. Problem
2. Your solution
3. Business model
4. Underlying magic/technology
5. Marketing and sales
6. Competition
7. Team
8. Projections and milestones
9. Status and timeline
10. Summary and call to action
Comments are welcome!
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Leaders and Conflict Resolution
I got this very insightful tips on conflict resolution: Worth the time in reading:
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1. Act quickly. "Conflict is highly viral," Murphy said. "Each hour, day or week you avoid dealing with it, it will grow" as your reputation diminishes. "Leaders who don't manage conflict often find their own performance called into question."
2. Define the moment -- and yourself. Don't delegate responsibility for managing conflict. Use it as an "opportunity to establish (yourself) as a leader," Murphy said.
3. Clarify:Resolve conflicts in a way that "clarifies and reinforces individual and team responsibility," he said.
4. Never take sides. Correct individuals privately. Even if someone's clearly at fault, it does little good to say so publicly. You'll reinforce team anger toward the person, and damage your relationship with him or her. Addressing the conflict usually reveals ample blame.
5. Teamwork: Make resolving the dispute a group effort. Without pointing fingers, "sort out who should own what, and encourage each individual to acknowledge" it, Murphy said.
6. Big Picture: "Resolve conflict in favor of the (organization)," he said. Never "accord victory to one party over another."
7. Face conflict one at a time. "Acting on multiple conflicts dissipates your energy and focus," Murphy said. "The (public) resolution of one conflict can send a clear signal to other people as to how you'll handle their situations." They'll get the message -- and likely resolve the dispute themselves. When several conflicts have a common theme, get everyone together and hash the issues out. You'll save time -- and likely prevent similar disputes down the road.
8. Get to the root. Focus on the causes of conflict, not the symptoms. Doing the latter highlights surface issues and encourages discord.
9. Start with positives. When resolving disputes, begin with issues everyone agrees on, says communications coach Ronnie Moore, author of the just-released book "Why Did I Say That?" Example: "We've all worked here a long time and have achieved a great deal together. You're a talented group whose talents play well off each other." You've given a sincere compliment -- and provided motivation to resolve the conflict.
9. Apologize. If you've contributed to the problem -- perhaps by not addressing it sooner -- admit it. You'll set a conciliatory tone, Moore says.
10. Frame it. "Sometimes changing a word or phrase can communicate a more positive intention," Moore said. "Saying 'I can do this if you'll do that' is more collaborative than 'I can't do this unless you do that.' Too many times, we put a negative frame around a message that could be communicated positively."
Lastly, acknowledge without agreeing. Acknowledgment tells the other person you heard what he said. Until all parties "feel listened to," Moore said, they won't listen to you
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1. Act quickly. "Conflict is highly viral," Murphy said. "Each hour, day or week you avoid dealing with it, it will grow" as your reputation diminishes. "Leaders who don't manage conflict often find their own performance called into question."
2. Define the moment -- and yourself. Don't delegate responsibility for managing conflict. Use it as an "opportunity to establish (yourself) as a leader," Murphy said.
3. Clarify:Resolve conflicts in a way that "clarifies and reinforces individual and team responsibility," he said.
4. Never take sides. Correct individuals privately. Even if someone's clearly at fault, it does little good to say so publicly. You'll reinforce team anger toward the person, and damage your relationship with him or her. Addressing the conflict usually reveals ample blame.
5. Teamwork: Make resolving the dispute a group effort. Without pointing fingers, "sort out who should own what, and encourage each individual to acknowledge" it, Murphy said.
6. Big Picture: "Resolve conflict in favor of the (organization)," he said. Never "accord victory to one party over another."
7. Face conflict one at a time. "Acting on multiple conflicts dissipates your energy and focus," Murphy said. "The (public) resolution of one conflict can send a clear signal to other people as to how you'll handle their situations." They'll get the message -- and likely resolve the dispute themselves. When several conflicts have a common theme, get everyone together and hash the issues out. You'll save time -- and likely prevent similar disputes down the road.
8. Get to the root. Focus on the causes of conflict, not the symptoms. Doing the latter highlights surface issues and encourages discord.
9. Start with positives. When resolving disputes, begin with issues everyone agrees on, says communications coach Ronnie Moore, author of the just-released book "Why Did I Say That?" Example: "We've all worked here a long time and have achieved a great deal together. You're a talented group whose talents play well off each other." You've given a sincere compliment -- and provided motivation to resolve the conflict.
9. Apologize. If you've contributed to the problem -- perhaps by not addressing it sooner -- admit it. You'll set a conciliatory tone, Moore says.
10. Frame it. "Sometimes changing a word or phrase can communicate a more positive intention," Moore said. "Saying 'I can do this if you'll do that' is more collaborative than 'I can't do this unless you do that.' Too many times, we put a negative frame around a message that could be communicated positively."
Lastly, acknowledge without agreeing. Acknowledgment tells the other person you heard what he said. Until all parties "feel listened to," Moore said, they won't listen to you
Monday, September 10, 2007
Leadership and Climbing Ladders
The rung of a ladder was never meant to rest upon, but, only to hold a man's foot long enough to enable him to put the other somewhat higher." By: Thomas Henry Huxley
Very Profound!
Very Profound!
Wednesday, September 05, 2007
Job Promotion and Building Relationships
The higher you climb the corporate ladder, the more down-to-earth you'll become. Or you SHOULD become? Biblical? This time round, I think I found the connection. I am a personal witness to this cliche to being valid-both in the brotherhood and in the corporate world!
Why? Today, I was promoted to head the Global operations!
And with a stroke of divine coincidence, I just came out of a seminar organized by our local church. Topic is, guess what, about building MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP!
And now as I reflect in my quiet time-while writing this blog entry-I felt being moved into a divine scenario where the Almighty's hand is leading me to think about 'building my team anchored on solid grounding, and I'll do well.
More hardwork. But again, easier said than done.
Why? Today, I was promoted to head the Global operations!
And with a stroke of divine coincidence, I just came out of a seminar organized by our local church. Topic is, guess what, about building MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP!
And now as I reflect in my quiet time-while writing this blog entry-I felt being moved into a divine scenario where the Almighty's hand is leading me to think about 'building my team anchored on solid grounding, and I'll do well.
More hardwork. But again, easier said than done.
Friday, August 17, 2007
Pygmalion Effect vs Leadership
Have we been robbed of our leadership potential due to exposure to 'bad' teachers?
The pygmalion effect defines that "if teachers were led to expect enhanced performance from some children, then the children did indeed show that enhancement. In some cases such improvement was about twice that shown by other children in the same class. The pygmalion experiment was to support the hypothesis that reality can be influenced by the expectations of others. This influence can be beneficial as well as detrimental depending on which label an individual is assigned."
In hindsight, I tend to believe this behavioral correlation exist. But we might argue there are other influential factors such as environment. Obviously yes. But other than the parents, the single biggest influence on children, remains rooted on teachers.Comments?
The pygmalion effect defines that "if teachers were led to expect enhanced performance from some children, then the children did indeed show that enhancement. In some cases such improvement was about twice that shown by other children in the same class. The pygmalion experiment was to support the hypothesis that reality can be influenced by the expectations of others. This influence can be beneficial as well as detrimental depending on which label an individual is assigned."
In hindsight, I tend to believe this behavioral correlation exist. But we might argue there are other influential factors such as environment. Obviously yes. But other than the parents, the single biggest influence on children, remains rooted on teachers.Comments?
Thursday, August 16, 2007
Leadership and Relationships
Browsing thru a bookstore led me to open one inspiring book on leadership (yet again!). The author goes on to define the basic tenets of 'improving one relational skills'. His objective is to survive in a higly hostile leadership environment.
Here are my realizations as I reflect on the topic on RELATIONSHIPS:
Relationships are:
1. Fragile - meaning we need to handle it with care.
2. Essential - you can't live without it.
3. Valuable - very precious and delicate as in a glass jar.
4. Requires Effort - it is no laggard and we need to work on it.
5. Diverse - varied and variety.
6. Changes you - very dynamic and never stagnant.
7. Risky - prone to problems, challenges.
8. Ends, not the means.
All are self explanatory. Except the last bullet which I find perplexing. Do you see relationships as ends of means?
Here are my realizations as I reflect on the topic on RELATIONSHIPS:
Relationships are:
1. Fragile - meaning we need to handle it with care.
2. Essential - you can't live without it.
3. Valuable - very precious and delicate as in a glass jar.
4. Requires Effort - it is no laggard and we need to work on it.
5. Diverse - varied and variety.
6. Changes you - very dynamic and never stagnant.
7. Risky - prone to problems, challenges.
8. Ends, not the means.
All are self explanatory. Except the last bullet which I find perplexing. Do you see relationships as ends of means?
Tuesday, August 14, 2007
Working Hard vs GDP Growth
One unassuming guy apparently installed a videocamera on a sidewalk to observe how fast people move about. This he performed in many top notch cities all over the world, from New York, London, Paris to Tokyo to Singapore. Soon after, he plot the data he gathered from this experiment into a graph.
Lo and behold, there is a significant correlation between GDP growth of the country to the pace in which people move about.
Can you believe that?
Lo and behold, there is a significant correlation between GDP growth of the country to the pace in which people move about.
Can you believe that?
Friday, August 10, 2007
Is Leadership Learned or Taught?
I am re-posting my comment to another excellent blogs I frequently read - for posterity measures!
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JFK uttered these words - “Each time someone stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope”
True enough, many a great men, ancient and modern leaders alike, of human history share this trait-to inspire men and move against insurmountable odds! From Alexander the great, to Churchill, Clausewitz to Colin Powell, most are icons in their own right. Napoleon is one classic example. Despite his physical stature, he commanded the utmost respect and deadly loyalty of his army. It is not because of any other attributes, but simply, because of his ability to inspire men and win their hearts to overcome all odds.
Closer to home, historic leaders such as Jose Rizal, inspired the multitude of revolutionaries to spark the great Phil. revolt of 1898. Such action eventually gained the Phil. independence over Spain. On the business side, Jack Welch and Lee Iacocca, to name a few, are great examples of business giants who did extremely well in inspiring their men to innovate and push business goal to the limits. Bottomline, their can do attitudes and rock solid characters shaped their destiny and their success. Simply put, their Being preceeds their doing.
I will not end my comment without a passage or two from scripture. And I quote “Let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.” - Matthew 5:15.
Keep these blogs, and thoughts, coming Wilson. It’s inspiring to say the least!!
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JFK uttered these words - “Each time someone stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope”
True enough, many a great men, ancient and modern leaders alike, of human history share this trait-to inspire men and move against insurmountable odds! From Alexander the great, to Churchill, Clausewitz to Colin Powell, most are icons in their own right. Napoleon is one classic example. Despite his physical stature, he commanded the utmost respect and deadly loyalty of his army. It is not because of any other attributes, but simply, because of his ability to inspire men and win their hearts to overcome all odds.
Closer to home, historic leaders such as Jose Rizal, inspired the multitude of revolutionaries to spark the great Phil. revolt of 1898. Such action eventually gained the Phil. independence over Spain. On the business side, Jack Welch and Lee Iacocca, to name a few, are great examples of business giants who did extremely well in inspiring their men to innovate and push business goal to the limits. Bottomline, their can do attitudes and rock solid characters shaped their destiny and their success. Simply put, their Being preceeds their doing.
I will not end my comment without a passage or two from scripture. And I quote “Let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.” - Matthew 5:15.
Keep these blogs, and thoughts, coming Wilson. It’s inspiring to say the least!!
Wednesday, August 08, 2007
Leadership Quadrant
I was reading a leadership book this past few days. One principle that struck me is the illustration which I took the liberty to name as the "LEADERSHIP QUADRANT".
Very profound matrix!! See for yourself!
Thursday, August 02, 2007
Sin or Saint
Up until now, I was caught totally unaware that the '7 deadly sins' are in fact scriptural. In one quotation, it says:
16 There are six things the LORD hates,
seven that are detestable to him:
17 haughty eyes,
a lying tongue,
hands that shed innocent blood,
18 a heart that devises wicked schemes,
feet that are quick to rush into evil,
19 a false witness who pours out lies
and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.
To balance the negative side, the positive aspects is hereby compared:
Vice Virtue
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Lust (excessive sexual appetites) Chastity (purity of soul)
Gluttony (over-indulgence) Temperance (self-restraint)
Greed (avarice) Charity (giving)
Sloth (idleness) Diligence (zeal/initiative)
Wrath (anger) Forgiveness (composure)
Envy (jealousy) Kindness (admiration)
Pride (vanity) Humility (humbleness/modesty)
Think again!
16 There are six things the LORD hates,
seven that are detestable to him:
17 haughty eyes,
a lying tongue,
hands that shed innocent blood,
18 a heart that devises wicked schemes,
feet that are quick to rush into evil,
19 a false witness who pours out lies
and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.
To balance the negative side, the positive aspects is hereby compared:
Vice Virtue
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Lust (excessive sexual appetites) Chastity (purity of soul)
Gluttony (over-indulgence) Temperance (self-restraint)
Greed (avarice) Charity (giving)
Sloth (idleness) Diligence (zeal/initiative)
Wrath (anger) Forgiveness (composure)
Envy (jealousy) Kindness (admiration)
Pride (vanity) Humility (humbleness/modesty)
Think again!
Monday, July 23, 2007
Static vs Dynamic Variables
I remember a university professor telling us that in engineering: "dynamics" of rigid bodies is a more unforgiving subject to handle compared to "statics". (Dynamics, a word denoting movement and change vs statics, which connotes something steady and stationary.)
Put simply, how can we measure let alone solve something that is constantly moving, changing and unstable? True enough! In real life, the same principles holds true!
My observation is that people who have mastered the art of recognizing and adddressing the impact of both will surely be successful. Specifically in the corporate world where a typical high profile manager's job involves running the gamut of dynamic variables i.e human emotions of customers and employees, and in the same spectrum, machines, production processes and systems etc.
Trained as an engineer, with a knack for anything 'mechanical' and honed outside of work as a leader-servant, with a good dose of handling the whole spectrum of human emotions, I think I'm being prepared to handle more...to come?...
Put simply, how can we measure let alone solve something that is constantly moving, changing and unstable? True enough! In real life, the same principles holds true!
My observation is that people who have mastered the art of recognizing and adddressing the impact of both will surely be successful. Specifically in the corporate world where a typical high profile manager's job involves running the gamut of dynamic variables i.e human emotions of customers and employees, and in the same spectrum, machines, production processes and systems etc.
Trained as an engineer, with a knack for anything 'mechanical' and honed outside of work as a leader-servant, with a good dose of handling the whole spectrum of human emotions, I think I'm being prepared to handle more...to come?...
Leader in the World and Follower of the WORD
Is this possible? The being and doing question?
Let me know your thoughts!
Let me know your thoughts!
Leader in the World and Follower of the WORD
Is this possible? The being and doing question?
Let me know your thoughts!
Let me know your thoughts!
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
TOP 20 Calorie Pumping Exercises
Healthy living for a lengthy serving! This is now my mantra. Mind you, in my younger days I used to be a sports fanatic. Basketball, volleyball, swimming, hiking. Can qualify for the ‘been there, done that’ group of people. Not that I have outgrown the passion. But with tight work and corporate communication schedules, family and church obligations, finding time to do the stuff that you love continues to be a challenge.
And here is the top 20 list of activities to keep in tone. All for a lenthy serving!
Running, 10.9 mph (5.5 min mile) 1267
Skiing, cross-country, uphill, maximum effort 1161
Bicycling, >20mph, racing 1126
Running, 10 mph (6 min mile) 1126
Running, 9 mph (6.5 min mile) 1056
Running, stairs, up 1056
Skating, ice, speed, competitive 1056
Running, 8.6 mph (7 min mile) 985
Skiing, cross-country, >8.0 mph, racing 985
Running, 8 mph (7.5 min mile) 950
Bicycling, stationary, very vigorous effort 880
Running, 7.5mph (8 min mile) 880
Bicycling, 16-19mph, very fast, racing 844
Boxing, in ring, general 844
Canoeing, rowing, >6 mph, vigorous effort 844
Canoeing, rowing, crewing, competition 844
Handball, general 844
Jai alai 844
Rope jumping, fast 844
Rowing, stationary, very vigorous effort 844
And here is the top 20 list of activities to keep in tone. All for a lenthy serving!
Running, 10.9 mph (5.5 min mile) 1267
Skiing, cross-country, uphill, maximum effort 1161
Bicycling, >20mph, racing 1126
Running, 10 mph (6 min mile) 1126
Running, 9 mph (6.5 min mile) 1056
Running, stairs, up 1056
Skating, ice, speed, competitive 1056
Running, 8.6 mph (7 min mile) 985
Skiing, cross-country, >8.0 mph, racing 985
Running, 8 mph (7.5 min mile) 950
Bicycling, stationary, very vigorous effort 880
Running, 7.5mph (8 min mile) 880
Bicycling, 16-19mph, very fast, racing 844
Boxing, in ring, general 844
Canoeing, rowing, >6 mph, vigorous effort 844
Canoeing, rowing, crewing, competition 844
Handball, general 844
Jai alai 844
Rope jumping, fast 844
Rowing, stationary, very vigorous effort 844
HEALTHY LIVING FOR A LENGTHY SERVING
HEALTHY LIVING FOR A LENGTHY SERVING. Yes, that is my mantra these days. For a start, I tried researching how much calories do we really burn in our daily chores.
Voila-here you go.!
Voila-here you go.!
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Changes
You probably noticed the changes.
Yep, first half of 2007 is gone. It's time to do some housekeeping also...Voila-this is the result...
Hope you like the change. If not, I can readily revert back.
Yep, first half of 2007 is gone. It's time to do some housekeeping also...Voila-this is the result...
Hope you like the change. If not, I can readily revert back.
Leadership Equation
I learned a very important principle today. The author of a Christian book tackling leadership states this equation:
LEADERSHIP=LEADER+FOLLOWER+SITUATION
He goes on to say, that above equation is similar to the FIRE Equation. Which is: Fuel + combusible material=FIRE. Abscence of any factor renders the others useless.
Very true. I felt I am slowly 'unlearning the ways of the world' and 'relearning the ways of the MASTER!
And solomon is absolutely right! Nothing new under the sun!
LEADERSHIP=LEADER+FOLLOWER+SITUATION
He goes on to say, that above equation is similar to the FIRE Equation. Which is: Fuel + combusible material=FIRE. Abscence of any factor renders the others useless.
Very true. I felt I am slowly 'unlearning the ways of the world' and 'relearning the ways of the MASTER!
And solomon is absolutely right! Nothing new under the sun!
Leadership Equation
I found this equation at work while reading a Christian Leadership book. Author says that effective leadership rests on:
LEADERSHIP = LEADER+FOLLOWER+SITUATION
It is very true! And somehow the feeling I have today is that I am 'unlearning' the ways of the world - and- relearning the ways of the MASTER. Solomon is right, nothing new under the sun!
LEADERSHIP = LEADER+FOLLOWER+SITUATION
It is very true! And somehow the feeling I have today is that I am 'unlearning' the ways of the world - and- relearning the ways of the MASTER. Solomon is right, nothing new under the sun!
Wednesday, July 04, 2007
Leadership and Warren Buffet
I found this email from a friend. The grain of truth embedded in this made me want to post here:
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There was a one hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffet, the second richest man who has donated $31 billion to charity Here are some very interesting aspects of his life:
1. He bought his first share at age 11 and he now regrets that he started too late!
2. He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.
3. He still lives in the same small 3-bedroom house in mid-town Omaha, that he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He
says that he has everything he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or a fence.
4. He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security people around him.
5. He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest private jet company.
6. His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes only one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals for the year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a regular basis. He has given his CEO's only two rules. Rule number 1: do not lose any of your share holder's money.
Rule number 2: Do not forget rule number 1.
7. He does not socialize with the high society crowd. His past time after he gets home is to make himself some pop corn and watch Television.
8. Bill Gates, the world's richest man met him for the first time only 5 years ago. Bill Gates did not think he had anything in common with Warren Buffet. So he had scheduled his meeting only for half hour. But when Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten hours and Bill Gates became a devotee of Warren Buffet.
9. Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a computer on his desk.
His advice to young people: "Stay away from credit cards and invest in yourself and
Remember:
A. Money doesn't create man but it is the man who created money.
B. Live your life as simple as you are.
C. Don't do what others say, just listen them, but do what you feel good.
D. Don't go on brand name; just wear those things in which u feel comfortable.
E. Don't waste your money on unnecessary things; just spend on them who really in need rather.
F. After all it's your life then why give chance to others to rule our life."
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There was a one hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffet, the second richest man who has donated $31 billion to charity Here are some very interesting aspects of his life:
1. He bought his first share at age 11 and he now regrets that he started too late!
2. He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.
3. He still lives in the same small 3-bedroom house in mid-town Omaha, that he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He
says that he has everything he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or a fence.
4. He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security people around him.
5. He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest private jet company.
6. His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes only one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals for the year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a regular basis. He has given his CEO's only two rules. Rule number 1: do not lose any of your share holder's money.
Rule number 2: Do not forget rule number 1.
7. He does not socialize with the high society crowd. His past time after he gets home is to make himself some pop corn and watch Television.
8. Bill Gates, the world's richest man met him for the first time only 5 years ago. Bill Gates did not think he had anything in common with Warren Buffet. So he had scheduled his meeting only for half hour. But when Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten hours and Bill Gates became a devotee of Warren Buffet.
9. Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a computer on his desk.
His advice to young people: "Stay away from credit cards and invest in yourself and
Remember:
A. Money doesn't create man but it is the man who created money.
B. Live your life as simple as you are.
C. Don't do what others say, just listen them, but do what you feel good.
D. Don't go on brand name; just wear those things in which u feel comfortable.
E. Don't waste your money on unnecessary things; just spend on them who really in need rather.
F. After all it's your life then why give chance to others to rule our life."
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Tuesday, July 03, 2007
Entreprenuerial Leadership
This story is simply remarkable! It's very inspiring I felt worth posting. This is on the same vein to the financial crisis in 1997.
It's about Thailand's "Mr. Sandwich Man".
He is a former Bangkok multi-millionaire realtor selling 5 to 50 million Thai bath condominiums. In the aftermath of the crisis, he ended up as a bankrupt overnight. He was then forced to sell sandwiches to fend for himself and his family on the streets of bangkok. Ten years and tons of perseverance, determination and grit later, he is now back a multi millionaire doing a different business model.
Why did I right about this? Again, the lesson of fiscal prudence. Hallmarks of a financially literate person!
No wonder the Chinese are known for being savvy businessmen. They are equally as prudent in their fiscal spending as well as in their daily choices and lifestyles!
It's about Thailand's "Mr. Sandwich Man".
He is a former Bangkok multi-millionaire realtor selling 5 to 50 million Thai bath condominiums. In the aftermath of the crisis, he ended up as a bankrupt overnight. He was then forced to sell sandwiches to fend for himself and his family on the streets of bangkok. Ten years and tons of perseverance, determination and grit later, he is now back a multi millionaire doing a different business model.
Why did I right about this? Again, the lesson of fiscal prudence. Hallmarks of a financially literate person!
No wonder the Chinese are known for being savvy businessmen. They are equally as prudent in their fiscal spending as well as in their daily choices and lifestyles!
Leadership and Asian Financial Crisis
I was listening to the BBC report on the 1997 Financial Crisis Meltdown report. Just to summarize my recollection on the rootcause(s)-
Problem:
1. Institutional investors pull investments out of the NIC Asian countries;
2. Central banks devaluated their currency because of the pull out;
3. Exchange rate was fixed against US dollar;
Solution:
1. Flexible exchange rate pattern.
2. Trigger point or safety threshold from bank fund managers by institutional investors.
Why did I write about this? Because I believe in the journey to financial freedom begins by perfecting the financial literacy of an individual. Leadership in this area teaches us fiscal prudence which in the long run can bring about fruition to any family endeavor-financial or otherwise.
Problem:
1. Institutional investors pull investments out of the NIC Asian countries;
2. Central banks devaluated their currency because of the pull out;
3. Exchange rate was fixed against US dollar;
Solution:
1. Flexible exchange rate pattern.
2. Trigger point or safety threshold from bank fund managers by institutional investors.
Why did I write about this? Because I believe in the journey to financial freedom begins by perfecting the financial literacy of an individual. Leadership in this area teaches us fiscal prudence which in the long run can bring about fruition to any family endeavor-financial or otherwise.
Monday, June 25, 2007
Mark Twain's 15 Best Quote
I tried to reflect on these Mark Twain's Quote. These passages run from the mundane to the profound. Yet somehow they evoke simplicity packed with powerful wisdom for everyday living. Here goes:
1. Buy land, they're not making it anymore.
2. Don't let schooling interfere with your education.
3. Education consists mainly of what we have unlearned.
4. Facts are stubborn, but statistics are more pliable.
5. Get your facts first, then you can distort them as you please.
6. I am opposed to millionaires, but it would be dangerous to offer me the position.
7. It is better to deserve honors and not have them than to have them and not deserve them.
8. It ain't those parts of the Bible that I can't understand that bother me, it is the parts that I do understand.
9. It is easier to stay out than get out.
10. Name the greatest of all inventors. Accident.
11. Nothing so needs reforming as other people's habits.
12. When in doubt tell the truth.
13. The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them.
14. The Christian's Bible is a drug store. Its contents remain the same, but the medical practice changes.
15. No sinner is ever saved after the first twenty minutes of a sermon.
1. Buy land, they're not making it anymore.
2. Don't let schooling interfere with your education.
3. Education consists mainly of what we have unlearned.
4. Facts are stubborn, but statistics are more pliable.
5. Get your facts first, then you can distort them as you please.
6. I am opposed to millionaires, but it would be dangerous to offer me the position.
7. It is better to deserve honors and not have them than to have them and not deserve them.
8. It ain't those parts of the Bible that I can't understand that bother me, it is the parts that I do understand.
9. It is easier to stay out than get out.
10. Name the greatest of all inventors. Accident.
11. Nothing so needs reforming as other people's habits.
12. When in doubt tell the truth.
13. The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them.
14. The Christian's Bible is a drug store. Its contents remain the same, but the medical practice changes.
15. No sinner is ever saved after the first twenty minutes of a sermon.
Basketball and Leadership
Today, another milestone is about to take place in our family!
My eldest son has finally become so passionate about basketball! (Reminds me of myself and my younger kid brother who were as enthusiastic as he is now). My younger one is closely following the footsteps of his older sibling.
And to support their passions, I have indulged myself in re-visiting the sport I once loved, relearn the tricks of the trader, in the hope of imparting to them as much experience I have. Obviously goal is to make them the best players and leaders for tomorrow.
Not to mention, I have had the exhilirating opportunity to bond with my 2 boys like no other. Hence, I came up with this "10 Commandments in Basketball: Life Skills and Leadership skills" philosophy I will follow up as they grow old.
1.If you trip over;
Teaches you persistence
2.If you face bigger opponents;
Teaches you Bravery
3. If you have attempts blocked;
Teaches you Perseverance
4. If you have attempts made;
Teaches you Humility/Success
5.If you train hard;
Teaches you Discipline
6. If you Assist;
Teaches you group dynamics
7. If you play in a team Position
Teaches you Role playing/Leader
9. Finally, if you master the overall game
Teaches you how to become better manager, coach
My eldest son has finally become so passionate about basketball! (Reminds me of myself and my younger kid brother who were as enthusiastic as he is now). My younger one is closely following the footsteps of his older sibling.
And to support their passions, I have indulged myself in re-visiting the sport I once loved, relearn the tricks of the trader, in the hope of imparting to them as much experience I have. Obviously goal is to make them the best players and leaders for tomorrow.
Not to mention, I have had the exhilirating opportunity to bond with my 2 boys like no other. Hence, I came up with this "10 Commandments in Basketball: Life Skills and Leadership skills" philosophy I will follow up as they grow old.
1.If you trip over;
Teaches you persistence
2.If you face bigger opponents;
Teaches you Bravery
3. If you have attempts blocked;
Teaches you Perseverance
4. If you have attempts made;
Teaches you Humility/Success
5.If you train hard;
Teaches you Discipline
6. If you Assist;
Teaches you group dynamics
7. If you play in a team Position
Teaches you Role playing/Leader
9. Finally, if you master the overall game
Teaches you how to become better manager, coach
Friday, June 22, 2007
Hydraulics Engineering Leadership
I admire the Dutch!
They not only embody the family oriented work-life balance culture. Time and again, they have thought of simple, easy-to-use, user-friendly,ingenious and revolutionary hydraulic engineering feats the world has never before seen.
Consider this:
Problem Solution
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1917 North Sea Flooding Massive seawall ever built
1953 Storm Surge Revolutionary movable series of dams.
1975 Flood Threat Rotating floating dam.
With a price to pay. Almost all 3 major obstacles nearly destroyed the country. But with their people's relentless pursuit for mini miracles, they have turnaround yet again!
What a feat of leadership!
They not only embody the family oriented work-life balance culture. Time and again, they have thought of simple, easy-to-use, user-friendly,ingenious and revolutionary hydraulic engineering feats the world has never before seen.
Consider this:
Problem Solution
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1917 North Sea Flooding Massive seawall ever built
1953 Storm Surge Revolutionary movable series of dams.
1975 Flood Threat Rotating floating dam.
With a price to pay. Almost all 3 major obstacles nearly destroyed the country. But with their people's relentless pursuit for mini miracles, they have turnaround yet again!
What a feat of leadership!
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
Leadership and Becoming an Entrepreneur
I just finished reading an inspiring speech by a Chinese tycoon back home. I have outlined what I understood to be key principles that propelled him from becoming a 'rags to riches' story:
1. Boldness: the audacity to conquer unknown territory in business, perhaps including competition.
2. Diligence: the will, guts, perseverance to accomplish tasks/goals in the business world.
3. Frugality: denial of short term loss (comforts) for long term gain (financial reward)
4. Shrewd Business sense: the creativity to make something out of nothing, find and fill a need, identify and solve people's problem are hallmarks of a true businessman.
Now, as leaders, we can learn a thing or two from above description. Think about it, leadership and entreprenuership does have a lot of things in common. Now that I know, shall i dive? Hmmm, a little more time perhaps...
1. Boldness: the audacity to conquer unknown territory in business, perhaps including competition.
2. Diligence: the will, guts, perseverance to accomplish tasks/goals in the business world.
3. Frugality: denial of short term loss (comforts) for long term gain (financial reward)
4. Shrewd Business sense: the creativity to make something out of nothing, find and fill a need, identify and solve people's problem are hallmarks of a true businessman.
Now, as leaders, we can learn a thing or two from above description. Think about it, leadership and entreprenuership does have a lot of things in common. Now that I know, shall i dive? Hmmm, a little more time perhaps...
Prolific Leader Profile
One of the Leadership sermons I heard talked about a prolific leader's profile or description to which I liberally quote:
1. Insight: the ability to zoom into the main points of a discussion or idea. No wasted words, time and energy.
2. Foresight: the ability to see into the future. Where others see despair, he/she sees opportunities, others see obstacles, he/she sees a way out.
3. Hindsight: the ability to review past histories or patterns, and learn the lessons of it.
The speaker goes on to enumerate above 3 as the very ingredient to becoming a successful leader. Do you agree?
1. Insight: the ability to zoom into the main points of a discussion or idea. No wasted words, time and energy.
2. Foresight: the ability to see into the future. Where others see despair, he/she sees opportunities, others see obstacles, he/she sees a way out.
3. Hindsight: the ability to review past histories or patterns, and learn the lessons of it.
The speaker goes on to enumerate above 3 as the very ingredient to becoming a successful leader. Do you agree?
Tuesday, June 05, 2007
No Pain No Gain
Never been truer!
Two weeks ago, my son had his circumcision. How time flies! Eleven years later and I recall with a grin in my face those similar times I had mine. To our culture, its the passage from boyhood to adulthood.
Looking back, one generation ago and here we are, living in a different country far superior in economic and social standard compared to our homeland. The trappings could be aplenty. But the rudiments of a nascent culture still pervades every aspect of our lifestyle.
I recalled one person who said: I am standing on the shoulders of giants! This cliche could never been more truer!
Two weeks ago, my son had his circumcision. How time flies! Eleven years later and I recall with a grin in my face those similar times I had mine. To our culture, its the passage from boyhood to adulthood.
Looking back, one generation ago and here we are, living in a different country far superior in economic and social standard compared to our homeland. The trappings could be aplenty. But the rudiments of a nascent culture still pervades every aspect of our lifestyle.
I recalled one person who said: I am standing on the shoulders of giants! This cliche could never been more truer!
Leadership Losses
Today, two colleagues of mine, both of whom are pillars and strong leaders in their own right, left the company. As I reflect on their many contributions, I came across Mark Twain's quotes. For reflective purposes, I took the liberty of posting them here...Read on!
1. "It's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog".
2. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
3. “Dance as though no one is watching you. Love as though you have never been hurt before. Sing as though no one can hear you. Live as though heaven is on earth.”
4. "People will always talk about you, especially when they envy you and the life you live. Let them... you affected their lives, they didn't affect yours
And as I personally reflect on my own career path, I thought hard on what matters most in my journey. Questions such as " what would people remember of my leadership legacy when I leave?
Changes as these forces you to reconcile your thoughts, think hard on the near, medium and long term, refocus once goals and be thankful for the past blessings from up above! Solomon is ever right - nothing new under the sun!
1. "It's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog".
2. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
3. “Dance as though no one is watching you. Love as though you have never been hurt before. Sing as though no one can hear you. Live as though heaven is on earth.”
4. "People will always talk about you, especially when they envy you and the life you live. Let them... you affected their lives, they didn't affect yours
And as I personally reflect on my own career path, I thought hard on what matters most in my journey. Questions such as " what would people remember of my leadership legacy when I leave?
Changes as these forces you to reconcile your thoughts, think hard on the near, medium and long term, refocus once goals and be thankful for the past blessings from up above! Solomon is ever right - nothing new under the sun!
Thursday, May 17, 2007
15 Tips to Succeed
I got this from the office: Very succint!
1. Don't Gossip: Don't talk negatively about people behind their backs. Gossip is a NO NO.
2. Seek challenge: Try to work for someone who'll challenge your powers: You'll learn more in a year than 4 years of college.
3. Communicate: Successful bosses have good communication skills: They learn from people, including their employees.
4. Work in such a way that makes your boss look good: It's not flattery.
5. Make Friends: On downsizing, the first to go are those with few friends. Bosses prefer competent people whom they respect.
6. Dress up: Dress for the job you want, not the one you have. Let your dress reflect professionalism.
7. Exercise: Workout to get in good physical shape. Unless exceptionally skilled, the unhealthy are at a comparative disadvantage.
8. Tell the truth:Personal integrity is crucial. Tell nothing but the truth. Bosses can forgive mistakes but if you lie, you're gone.
9. Be on time: Try to arrive few minutes early. It saves you from stress. You'll be much relaxed & work better.
10. Beat Deadline: strive your best to keep a deadline: If you cannot meet it, then apologize & ask for an extension.
11. Don't take things personally: If some people are unhappy with you, it's their problem. But always strive to give your best.
12. Praise in public, punish in private:If you must correct someone, don't get personal about it. Do it never in front of others.
13. Reflect: Spend some time alone everyday: What's the mission of my life? What do I want to be? And how to go about it.
14. Exit strategy: As you move along Plan A of your career, maintain a Plan B as well — an alternative course to rely.
15. Get Passion: Always remember that the secret of success is passion. Always think big. Spread love & joy. You'll have blissful years ahead.
1. Don't Gossip: Don't talk negatively about people behind their backs. Gossip is a NO NO.
2. Seek challenge: Try to work for someone who'll challenge your powers: You'll learn more in a year than 4 years of college.
3. Communicate: Successful bosses have good communication skills: They learn from people, including their employees.
4. Work in such a way that makes your boss look good: It's not flattery.
5. Make Friends: On downsizing, the first to go are those with few friends. Bosses prefer competent people whom they respect.
6. Dress up: Dress for the job you want, not the one you have. Let your dress reflect professionalism.
7. Exercise: Workout to get in good physical shape. Unless exceptionally skilled, the unhealthy are at a comparative disadvantage.
8. Tell the truth:Personal integrity is crucial. Tell nothing but the truth. Bosses can forgive mistakes but if you lie, you're gone.
9. Be on time: Try to arrive few minutes early. It saves you from stress. You'll be much relaxed & work better.
10. Beat Deadline: strive your best to keep a deadline: If you cannot meet it, then apologize & ask for an extension.
11. Don't take things personally: If some people are unhappy with you, it's their problem. But always strive to give your best.
12. Praise in public, punish in private:If you must correct someone, don't get personal about it. Do it never in front of others.
13. Reflect: Spend some time alone everyday: What's the mission of my life? What do I want to be? And how to go about it.
14. Exit strategy: As you move along Plan A of your career, maintain a Plan B as well — an alternative course to rely.
15. Get Passion: Always remember that the secret of success is passion. Always think big. Spread love & joy. You'll have blissful years ahead.
Monday, May 14, 2007
Saturday, May 12, 2007
Anger Management
Today, my pursuit to perfection took a setback. Negative ratings went up. I remember this anecdote as I failed to control my temper and said the wrong things to my 11-year son. May the Lord forgives me.
Key Message: Make sure you control your temper the next time you are tempted to say something you will regret later!
THE STORY GOES:
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There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily, gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all.
He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.
He said "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one."
============================End of Story========================================
Often, it won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there. Tame your tongue-said James!!
Key Message: Make sure you control your temper the next time you are tempted to say something you will regret later!
THE STORY GOES:
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There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily, gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all.
He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.
He said "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one."
============================End of Story========================================
Often, it won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there. Tame your tongue-said James!!
Tuesday, May 08, 2007
Moving Mountains
I read in a Harvard Business Review about the fundamental principles of motivating people. It outlines the following tenets in order to create a workplace full of highly motivated people.
1. Start with the Truth
2. Appeal to Greatness
3. Make them proud
4. Stick to your values
5. Be a broken record
6. Build Trust
7. Encourage Risk
8. Care for the little guy
9. Ground without grinding
10. Leap first, ask later.
11. Set different incentive levels
12.Work quickly through pain.
1. Start with the Truth
2. Appeal to Greatness
3. Make them proud
4. Stick to your values
5. Be a broken record
6. Build Trust
7. Encourage Risk
8. Care for the little guy
9. Ground without grinding
10. Leap first, ask later.
11. Set different incentive levels
12.Work quickly through pain.
Monday, May 07, 2007
To Inspire Men
I am re-publishing here what I commented into 1 blog I fondly go to for business tips:
JFK uttered these words - “Each time someone stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope”
True enough, many a great men, ancient and modern leaders alike, of human history share this trait-to inspire men and move against insurmountable odds! From Alexander the great, to Churchill, Clausewitz to Colin Powell, most are icons in their own right. Napoleon is one classic example. Despite his physical stature, he commanded the utmost respect and deadly loyalty of his army. It is not because of any other attributes, but simply, because of his ability to inspire men and win their hearts to overcome all odds.
Closer to home, historic leaders such as Jose Rizal, inspired the multitude of revolutionaries to spark the great Phil. revolt of 1898. Such action eventually gained the Phil. independence over Spain.
On the business side, Jack Welch and Lee Iacocca, to name a few, are great examples of business giants who did extremely well in inspiring their men to innovate and push business goal to the limits. Bottomline, their can do attitudes and rock solid characters shaped their destiny and their success. Simply put, their Being preceeds their doing.
I will not end my comment without a passage or two from scripture.
And I quote “Let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.” - Matthew 5:15.
JFK uttered these words - “Each time someone stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope”
True enough, many a great men, ancient and modern leaders alike, of human history share this trait-to inspire men and move against insurmountable odds! From Alexander the great, to Churchill, Clausewitz to Colin Powell, most are icons in their own right. Napoleon is one classic example. Despite his physical stature, he commanded the utmost respect and deadly loyalty of his army. It is not because of any other attributes, but simply, because of his ability to inspire men and win their hearts to overcome all odds.
Closer to home, historic leaders such as Jose Rizal, inspired the multitude of revolutionaries to spark the great Phil. revolt of 1898. Such action eventually gained the Phil. independence over Spain.
On the business side, Jack Welch and Lee Iacocca, to name a few, are great examples of business giants who did extremely well in inspiring their men to innovate and push business goal to the limits. Bottomline, their can do attitudes and rock solid characters shaped their destiny and their success. Simply put, their Being preceeds their doing.
I will not end my comment without a passage or two from scripture.
And I quote “Let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.” - Matthew 5:15.
Legacy
I recall this poem while reflecting on my daily devotionals..
I expect to pass thru this world but once
Any good therefore that I can do
Or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature
Let me do it now
Let me not defer or neglect it
For I shall never pass this way again...
Talk about legacy!
I expect to pass thru this world but once
Any good therefore that I can do
Or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature
Let me do it now
Let me not defer or neglect it
For I shall never pass this way again...
Talk about legacy!
Weekend Reflection
In Exodus 20 verse 8 to 11, GOD spoke to Moses and HE said : "Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the LORD your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your manservant or maidservant, nor your animals, nor the alien within your gates. For in six days the LORD made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the seventh day. Therefore the LORD blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.
I am guilty. Because last weekend, 90% of my time was spent of doing routine errands and church obligations without due regard for my family and kids welfare.
I don't know about you. But this is an area where I struggle right now. Striking the right balance between family time, work commitments and church obligations.
Early on, I have followed a simple principle which has worked wonders. Eight hr compartments daily - 8 hr work, 8 hr play and 8 hr sleep. While coursing thru life, commitments came. Personal, business and family commitments. And as I prove success after success of everyhing I do because of the LORD, more time came for me to channel my energy elsewhere, except in things which I hold dear, such as becoming a devoted father to my children!
Question: if we strive to strike the right balance, do we ever gain depth?
We have to remember that focus brings depth. So if we lose focus on one area, because we are compelled to limit our time by doing another, how could we be ever deep in anything we do? Tough one.
Again, I don't know about you, but the way I think right now is about legacy. Something like, when I leave this earth, what is one thing that my name be remembered about?
Am i a musician? a singer? a composer? a businessman? a family man? a devoted father? a loving husband? an energizing colleague? a compassionate boss? a faithful worker? a committed employee? a passionate leader? a sportsman?
I have to choose one! And that is very very very tough! Legacies legacies..
I am guilty. Because last weekend, 90% of my time was spent of doing routine errands and church obligations without due regard for my family and kids welfare.
I don't know about you. But this is an area where I struggle right now. Striking the right balance between family time, work commitments and church obligations.
Early on, I have followed a simple principle which has worked wonders. Eight hr compartments daily - 8 hr work, 8 hr play and 8 hr sleep. While coursing thru life, commitments came. Personal, business and family commitments. And as I prove success after success of everyhing I do because of the LORD, more time came for me to channel my energy elsewhere, except in things which I hold dear, such as becoming a devoted father to my children!
Question: if we strive to strike the right balance, do we ever gain depth?
We have to remember that focus brings depth. So if we lose focus on one area, because we are compelled to limit our time by doing another, how could we be ever deep in anything we do? Tough one.
Again, I don't know about you, but the way I think right now is about legacy. Something like, when I leave this earth, what is one thing that my name be remembered about?
Am i a musician? a singer? a composer? a businessman? a family man? a devoted father? a loving husband? an energizing colleague? a compassionate boss? a faithful worker? a committed employee? a passionate leader? a sportsman?
I have to choose one! And that is very very very tough! Legacies legacies..
Friday, May 04, 2007
Selling Your Ideas: Rejection
I like what Seth Godin said on why people reject your ideas:
1. It was already done before.
2. It was never been done before.
Good way to reflect over the weekend!
1. It was already done before.
2. It was never been done before.
Good way to reflect over the weekend!
Wednesday, May 02, 2007
Leadership Lessons from Jesus
I saw this lesson on leadership while browsing thru business and finance ideas. My quest now is to attempt to apply this principle:"One principle applied a day keeps mediocrity away"! Try it for yourselves! Here we go!
1. Jesus was a problem-solver
2. Jesus believed in his product
3. Jesus never misrepresented his product
4. Jesus went where the people were
5. Jesus took time to rest
6. Jesus took time to plan
7. Jesus knew he did not have to close every sale to be a success
8. Jesus had something others needed
9. Jesus was concerned about people's finances
10. Jesus was willing to go where he had never been before
11. Jesus never allowed what others said about him to change his opinion of himself
12. Jesus understood timing and preparation
13. Jesus developed a passion for his goals
14. Jesus respected authority
15. Jesus never discriminated
16. Jesus offered incentives
17. Jesus overcame the stigma of a questionable background
18. Jesus never wasted time answering critics
19. Jesus knew that there was a right time and a wrong time to approach people
20. Jesus educated those he mentored
21. Jesus refused to be discouraged when others misjudged his motives
22. Jesus refused to be bitter when others were disloyal or betrayed him
23. Jesus networked with people of all backgrounds
24. Jesus resisted temptation
25. Jesus made decisions that created a desired future instead of a desired present
26. Jesus never judged people by their outward appearance
27. Jesus recognized the law of repetition
28. Jesus was a tomorrow-thinker
29. Jesus knew that money alone could not bring contentment
30. Jesus knew the power of words and the power of silence
31. Jesus knew when you want something you have never had, you have to do something you have never done
32. Jesus permitted others to correct their mistakes
33. Jesus knew his worth
34. Jesus never tried to succeed alone
35. Jesus knew that money is anywhere you really want it to be
36. Jesus set specific goals
37. Jesus knew that every great achievement requires a willingness to begin small
38. Jesus hurt when others hurt
39. Jesus was not afraid to show his feelings
40. Jesus knew the power of habit
41. Jesus finished what he started
42. Jesus was knowledgeable of Scripture
43. Jesus never hurried
44. Jesus went where he was celebrated instead of where he was tolerated
45. Jesus constantly consulted his Heavenly Father
46. Jesus knew that prayer generates results
47. Jesus rose early
48. Jesus never felt he had to prove himself anyone
49. Jesus avoided unnecessary confrontations
50. Jesus delegated
51. Jesus carefully guarded his presonal schedule
52. Jesus asked questions to accurately determine the needs and desires of others
53. Jesus always answered truthfully
54. Jesus stayed in the center of his expertise
55. Jesus accepted the responsibility for the mistakes of those under his authority
56. Jesus pursued the mentorship of more experienced men
57. Jesus did not permit those he led to show disrespect
58. Jesus respected the Law of Sowing and Reaping
If only we apply these principles and take it to heart in our quest for excellence, I believe everyone can, and will be, blessed with reasonable wealth and good health.
1. Jesus was a problem-solver
2. Jesus believed in his product
3. Jesus never misrepresented his product
4. Jesus went where the people were
5. Jesus took time to rest
6. Jesus took time to plan
7. Jesus knew he did not have to close every sale to be a success
8. Jesus had something others needed
9. Jesus was concerned about people's finances
10. Jesus was willing to go where he had never been before
11. Jesus never allowed what others said about him to change his opinion of himself
12. Jesus understood timing and preparation
13. Jesus developed a passion for his goals
14. Jesus respected authority
15. Jesus never discriminated
16. Jesus offered incentives
17. Jesus overcame the stigma of a questionable background
18. Jesus never wasted time answering critics
19. Jesus knew that there was a right time and a wrong time to approach people
20. Jesus educated those he mentored
21. Jesus refused to be discouraged when others misjudged his motives
22. Jesus refused to be bitter when others were disloyal or betrayed him
23. Jesus networked with people of all backgrounds
24. Jesus resisted temptation
25. Jesus made decisions that created a desired future instead of a desired present
26. Jesus never judged people by their outward appearance
27. Jesus recognized the law of repetition
28. Jesus was a tomorrow-thinker
29. Jesus knew that money alone could not bring contentment
30. Jesus knew the power of words and the power of silence
31. Jesus knew when you want something you have never had, you have to do something you have never done
32. Jesus permitted others to correct their mistakes
33. Jesus knew his worth
34. Jesus never tried to succeed alone
35. Jesus knew that money is anywhere you really want it to be
36. Jesus set specific goals
37. Jesus knew that every great achievement requires a willingness to begin small
38. Jesus hurt when others hurt
39. Jesus was not afraid to show his feelings
40. Jesus knew the power of habit
41. Jesus finished what he started
42. Jesus was knowledgeable of Scripture
43. Jesus never hurried
44. Jesus went where he was celebrated instead of where he was tolerated
45. Jesus constantly consulted his Heavenly Father
46. Jesus knew that prayer generates results
47. Jesus rose early
48. Jesus never felt he had to prove himself anyone
49. Jesus avoided unnecessary confrontations
50. Jesus delegated
51. Jesus carefully guarded his presonal schedule
52. Jesus asked questions to accurately determine the needs and desires of others
53. Jesus always answered truthfully
54. Jesus stayed in the center of his expertise
55. Jesus accepted the responsibility for the mistakes of those under his authority
56. Jesus pursued the mentorship of more experienced men
57. Jesus did not permit those he led to show disrespect
58. Jesus respected the Law of Sowing and Reaping
If only we apply these principles and take it to heart in our quest for excellence, I believe everyone can, and will be, blessed with reasonable wealth and good health.
Tuesday, May 01, 2007
Labor Day Retreat
It's May 1. LABOR DAY. All throughout the world people are having a great time taking a break. Oxymoron? Labor day yet A public holiday.
Since time immemorial, man has been toiling in his fields. Why - consequence of Man's decision to choose his way not HIS WAYS! I am forced to quote scripture in this discussion:
17 GOD said to Adam, because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, 'You must not eat of it,' "Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat of it all the days of your life. 18 It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. 19 By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return."
If only.... But don't be disheartened. The solution is GOD in HIMSELF. Follow Jesus and HE will lead your path straight.
Today, I just came back after a joyous retreat with leaders in our local religious affiliation. For one thing, after reflecting on all the lessons on leadership we were taught, my belief now hinges even more to follow Christ!
And I believe, the solution to end all work is to trust GOD and lean not on your own understanding!
Have a talent? Offer to GOD -and HE will bless you even more!
Since time immemorial, man has been toiling in his fields. Why - consequence of Man's decision to choose his way not HIS WAYS! I am forced to quote scripture in this discussion:
17 GOD said to Adam, because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, 'You must not eat of it,' "Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat of it all the days of your life. 18 It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. 19 By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return."
If only.... But don't be disheartened. The solution is GOD in HIMSELF. Follow Jesus and HE will lead your path straight.
Today, I just came back after a joyous retreat with leaders in our local religious affiliation. For one thing, after reflecting on all the lessons on leadership we were taught, my belief now hinges even more to follow Christ!
And I believe, the solution to end all work is to trust GOD and lean not on your own understanding!
Have a talent? Offer to GOD -and HE will bless you even more!
Monday, April 30, 2007
Niche Blitz or Nitch Glitch?
Societal structures requires that it's makeup not only comprises of businessmen. But also of other sociological roles such as admin people, political leaders, thinkers, philosophers, artisans, craftsmen and artists!
Somehow, having observed the trend, I believe our people falls into the last 3 categories.
And I think, in order to combat povery amongst our people, we need now to find our specific niche in this global marketplace of ours, hone that niche to perfection and make it viable to the rest of the world. Once we find such, it will be our identity -and legacy we leave behind.
To date the best candidate for such is our communication skills par excellence. The other is our ability to weather political storms after storms that befall the country.
Perhaps other people can learn a thing or two how to survive in a society plagued with abhorrently inefficient political leaders making political surgery to our incurably ill institution. Sorry for the strong words, just my personal thoughts.
Solution? Leaders to run the country with exceptional commitment, extraordinary willpower, above average competence, unrelentless vision and unquestionable authority to rule the country.
Intention, interest and character above all matters too. It will be an added bonus if that person is a Christ-fearing and Christ-abiding being!
Somehow, having observed the trend, I believe our people falls into the last 3 categories.
And I think, in order to combat povery amongst our people, we need now to find our specific niche in this global marketplace of ours, hone that niche to perfection and make it viable to the rest of the world. Once we find such, it will be our identity -and legacy we leave behind.
To date the best candidate for such is our communication skills par excellence. The other is our ability to weather political storms after storms that befall the country.
Perhaps other people can learn a thing or two how to survive in a society plagued with abhorrently inefficient political leaders making political surgery to our incurably ill institution. Sorry for the strong words, just my personal thoughts.
Solution? Leaders to run the country with exceptional commitment, extraordinary willpower, above average competence, unrelentless vision and unquestionable authority to rule the country.
Intention, interest and character above all matters too. It will be an added bonus if that person is a Christ-fearing and Christ-abiding being!
DNA for Business
I admire the Chinese and the Jews. There are beautiful and excellent traits they have in common. For one, both are exemplary and unusually astute businessmen, highy respected and immaculately proud of their culture. Not to mention, their business acumen are simply remarkable!
Everywhere you go, the control of economy is somehow underpinned and hinges on the wealth they have created. From Seattle to Saigon, they are dominant in their business dealings.
It is not incidental that both groups of people are also the most hardworking of all. Well, its biblical to begin with - Lazy hands makes a man poor - diligent hands make him rich...
Call it a DNA, but I believe the secret to their success is the hardwired motivation for wealth creation, cultivated since childhood.
Time and time again, their ancestors speak of success being 99% perspiration and 1% inspiration. A brilliant engr. named Thomas Edison espoused such idea long ago and such idea hasn't waned a bit.
Hence, given the right environment to flourish, I believe all people are capable to such wealth creation.
I don't know about you but if I were to possess such passion and drive in business, think about the laborious process one has to undergo. Think hard and make sure one has the extreme enthusiasm to put in loong hours without any waning of interest.
As one passage puts it - if you have enthusiasm for 30 minutes, fine - 30 days, great - 30 years - success!!
Think about it!!
Everywhere you go, the control of economy is somehow underpinned and hinges on the wealth they have created. From Seattle to Saigon, they are dominant in their business dealings.
It is not incidental that both groups of people are also the most hardworking of all. Well, its biblical to begin with - Lazy hands makes a man poor - diligent hands make him rich...
Call it a DNA, but I believe the secret to their success is the hardwired motivation for wealth creation, cultivated since childhood.
Time and time again, their ancestors speak of success being 99% perspiration and 1% inspiration. A brilliant engr. named Thomas Edison espoused such idea long ago and such idea hasn't waned a bit.
Hence, given the right environment to flourish, I believe all people are capable to such wealth creation.
I don't know about you but if I were to possess such passion and drive in business, think about the laborious process one has to undergo. Think hard and make sure one has the extreme enthusiasm to put in loong hours without any waning of interest.
As one passage puts it - if you have enthusiasm for 30 minutes, fine - 30 days, great - 30 years - success!!
Think about it!!
Of Retreat and Re-treat
A follow up leadership retreat sponsored by our local religious affiliation is around the corner. As I reflect back on various aspects of the previous one (a) whether objectives have been met (2) whether leaders come out of the experience more equipped and more passionate to inspire others, 2 challenges came to mind. I thought it best to share with you-
Challenges are:
1. We were asked to think of the very first individual who has introduced us to the faith.
2. We were asked to create an environment to attract more newcomers and new believers in the faith to flock and hence experience the savior's saving grace.
By the goodness of the Lord, I have completed both challenges! First of all, I have written to the person who shared with me the Christian doctrine! Boy, and he was ecstatic!! We touchbase after 13 years of separation (since High school). I'm equally delighted to find out he is likewise passionately running the race he started decades ago. God is GREAT!
Second, over the last 2 months, i have followed up with organizing sports activities on weekends specifically designed to attract newcomers.
But, my bigger questions and personal challenge I set forth are:
1. Have I inspired my co-leaders to do the same?
2. Have I encouraged my co-leaders to take the same path?
3. Have I treated my co-leaders with the same passion I hold and energize them to initiate the same?
Until I have satisfactorily answered 1, 2 and 3, I think my role as leader of leaders hasn't been fully utilized. I am again asking for my Savior to grant me the desires of my heart and press on!
Challenges are:
1. We were asked to think of the very first individual who has introduced us to the faith.
2. We were asked to create an environment to attract more newcomers and new believers in the faith to flock and hence experience the savior's saving grace.
By the goodness of the Lord, I have completed both challenges! First of all, I have written to the person who shared with me the Christian doctrine! Boy, and he was ecstatic!! We touchbase after 13 years of separation (since High school). I'm equally delighted to find out he is likewise passionately running the race he started decades ago. God is GREAT!
Second, over the last 2 months, i have followed up with organizing sports activities on weekends specifically designed to attract newcomers.
But, my bigger questions and personal challenge I set forth are:
1. Have I inspired my co-leaders to do the same?
2. Have I encouraged my co-leaders to take the same path?
3. Have I treated my co-leaders with the same passion I hold and energize them to initiate the same?
Until I have satisfactorily answered 1, 2 and 3, I think my role as leader of leaders hasn't been fully utilized. I am again asking for my Savior to grant me the desires of my heart and press on!
Friday, April 27, 2007
Faith and Reason
Somehow, I just couldn't get enough of Dr. Chao's speech! I quote what he said " Faith is leaping into the Light".Here's why..
Often, most christians believe reason and faith is like oil and water. They don't go together. However he (Dr. chao ) said that "faith is seeing BEYOND reason." Faith takes over when a phenomenon could no longer reach the farthest and deepest of logical reason. Faith in fact is leaping into THE LIGHT!! The "I don't know" answer is NOT the same as " There are NO answers" he elaborated.
To end, it's biblical also. Jesus said in Matthew 13;13, "this is why I speak to them in parables: "Though seeing, they do not see; though hearing, they do not hear or understand.
Now, do you have faith?
Often, most christians believe reason and faith is like oil and water. They don't go together. However he (Dr. chao ) said that "faith is seeing BEYOND reason." Faith takes over when a phenomenon could no longer reach the farthest and deepest of logical reason. Faith in fact is leaping into THE LIGHT!! The "I don't know" answer is NOT the same as " There are NO answers" he elaborated.
To end, it's biblical also. Jesus said in Matthew 13;13, "this is why I speak to them in parables: "Though seeing, they do not see; though hearing, they do not hear or understand.
Now, do you have faith?
Authentic Leadership
I learned 5 principles of Authentic Ministry Leadership from Dr. Peter Chao. According to him, aspiring ministry leaders should possess or at least strive hard to build 5 character traits namely:
1. Authority: In order to have the authority, one must be competent and capable. You are only able to wield such authority if you have demonstrated skillfully your wares in solving problems and offering solutions to pressing issues.
2. Trust: the tricky part. If you need to be trusted by your followers you need to be capable and has shown consistent track record thru your past achievements. Similar to a good doctor diagnosing your condition or a skiled pilot manuevering the airplane you're riding on.
3. Integrity: A leader should not have duplicity in character. Cultivate what you see is what you get trait. Genuine. No phonyness. Authentic. If there are, strive to eliminate those rough edges until you're a well polished gem. A diamond is a diamond by cutting rough edges.
4. Commitment: This entails discipline. Show up. Lead by example. Energize and inspire by being early on everything you do.
5. Hard Work : Walk your talk. When all things are said and done - DO SOMETHING!
To end, I like the verses He quoted. One of my all time favorites 1 Cor 24-29 and 1Timothy 3:1. Now it's APPLICATION TIME!!! Gotta go!
1. Authority: In order to have the authority, one must be competent and capable. You are only able to wield such authority if you have demonstrated skillfully your wares in solving problems and offering solutions to pressing issues.
2. Trust: the tricky part. If you need to be trusted by your followers you need to be capable and has shown consistent track record thru your past achievements. Similar to a good doctor diagnosing your condition or a skiled pilot manuevering the airplane you're riding on.
3. Integrity: A leader should not have duplicity in character. Cultivate what you see is what you get trait. Genuine. No phonyness. Authentic. If there are, strive to eliminate those rough edges until you're a well polished gem. A diamond is a diamond by cutting rough edges.
4. Commitment: This entails discipline. Show up. Lead by example. Energize and inspire by being early on everything you do.
5. Hard Work : Walk your talk. When all things are said and done - DO SOMETHING!
To end, I like the verses He quoted. One of my all time favorites 1 Cor 24-29 and 1Timothy 3:1. Now it's APPLICATION TIME!!! Gotta go!
Quick to Trumpet - Slow to change
Why oh why??
People from my indigenous racial ties have the tendency for quickness in associating ties with international personalities.
The sad thing is back home, (and probably elsewhere??) my people continue to possess so called "crab mentality'. This is the phenomenon where people pull each other down in times of achievements instead of pushing each other up.
The good news is, we also tend to thrive and achieve remarkable accomplishments when we are in an environment full of oppression, discrimination and tyranny. Paradox to say the least.
Again, this is my observation and does not represent the sentiment of the general majority.
Does this mean we need to cultivate such an environment (oppression, tyranny and discrimination) in our own homes in order for people to step up and achieve unprecedented heights???
Food for thought!
People from my indigenous racial ties have the tendency for quickness in associating ties with international personalities.
The sad thing is back home, (and probably elsewhere??) my people continue to possess so called "crab mentality'. This is the phenomenon where people pull each other down in times of achievements instead of pushing each other up.
The good news is, we also tend to thrive and achieve remarkable accomplishments when we are in an environment full of oppression, discrimination and tyranny. Paradox to say the least.
Again, this is my observation and does not represent the sentiment of the general majority.
Does this mean we need to cultivate such an environment (oppression, tyranny and discrimination) in our own homes in order for people to step up and achieve unprecedented heights???
Food for thought!
Visual and Vocal
A career enhancement article trumpets this title. People are essentially drawn to presenters who can command a presence with their visual and vocal skills.
Ponder.
Ponder.
Saturday, April 21, 2007
Success Secrets
Great ideas to start taking control of your life, be a winner and live fruitfully.
1) I will not say yes to everything people ask of me because it takes away from my personal growth.
2) I will accomplish these 3 things this month…come hell or high water.
3) I will read one positive or influential book each month
4) I will NOT allow others to dictate my time
5) I will begin to give myself 5-10 minutes each day to reflect and think about what my goals
6) I will NOT compromise my family or personal time for work
7) I will begin to reduce my economic debts with the goal of being debt free by ________
1) I will not say yes to everything people ask of me because it takes away from my personal growth.
2) I will accomplish these 3 things this month…come hell or high water.
3) I will read one positive or influential book each month
4) I will NOT allow others to dictate my time
5) I will begin to give myself 5-10 minutes each day to reflect and think about what my goals
6) I will NOT compromise my family or personal time for work
7) I will begin to reduce my economic debts with the goal of being debt free by ________
Friday, April 20, 2007
Manage people’s desires, not their position.
"Manage people’s desires, not their position".
Thus said Victor Gonzales. A hugely popular motivational speaker in the U.S. It is said in the context of managing change and proper management behavior. Question is -what drives people? If what drives them are the same (i.e $$), then how will we manage?
I quote Victor Gonzalez again" But let's be honest with ourselves for a second, how many times have we really tried to understand the motivation behind an employee? Many of us ask our employees; well what is it that you want to do? But here’s a secret, sometimes, if not the majority of the times, THEY don’t even know. They think they do...or is it maybe that the when they see others doing well they think it's what they want. The grass certainly looks greener."
I believe the answer falls on leadership. Effective leadership that is. Effective leaders who do the right things. (John Maxwell said: Doing things right is efficiency. While doing right things is effectiveness. Managers are efficient people while leaders are an effective lot. )
Bottomline, managers needs to strive to becoming an effective leaders. Leaders who can inspire people. Leaders who can draw their followers to share the same vision and values for the betterment of the organization. Because at the end of the day, people want to led, not managed!
Food for thought...
Thus said Victor Gonzales. A hugely popular motivational speaker in the U.S. It is said in the context of managing change and proper management behavior. Question is -what drives people? If what drives them are the same (i.e $$), then how will we manage?
I quote Victor Gonzalez again" But let's be honest with ourselves for a second, how many times have we really tried to understand the motivation behind an employee? Many of us ask our employees; well what is it that you want to do? But here’s a secret, sometimes, if not the majority of the times, THEY don’t even know. They think they do...or is it maybe that the when they see others doing well they think it's what they want. The grass certainly looks greener."
I believe the answer falls on leadership. Effective leadership that is. Effective leaders who do the right things. (John Maxwell said: Doing things right is efficiency. While doing right things is effectiveness. Managers are efficient people while leaders are an effective lot. )
Bottomline, managers needs to strive to becoming an effective leaders. Leaders who can inspire people. Leaders who can draw their followers to share the same vision and values for the betterment of the organization. Because at the end of the day, people want to led, not managed!
Food for thought...
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
Leadership is Action - Not Position
Often, people aspire to lead. Only to end up disgrunted when they start to perspire to lead.
- Mark Boado-
- Mark Boado-
Deprivation vs Abundance
I can't exactly remember wheter I heard or read a passage which said " problem today is not so much rootcaused on deprivation but in abundance".
Wars have been started due to abundance of natural resources (oil, minerals) of one country over the other. Territorial conflicts have been ignited also because of abundance of land.
Question now is: Depending on which side of the fence you are, I think at the end of the day, for who's benefit is it anyway - the greater mass or the handful rich?
Wars have been started due to abundance of natural resources (oil, minerals) of one country over the other. Territorial conflicts have been ignited also because of abundance of land.
Question now is: Depending on which side of the fence you are, I think at the end of the day, for who's benefit is it anyway - the greater mass or the handful rich?
Tuesday, April 17, 2007
Anniversary
In a few more days and I will celebrate 1 year of blogging. Hooray! Looking back, here's what I have learned on this newage self-publishing called blogging:
1. Stories are aplenty. But time is not. Hence, penning your thoughts is hardly a walk in the park.
2. Writing becomes a tough nut to crack. Especially when you're caught battling with conflicting priorites.
3. Reason for writing. Without which, even the mightiest swordsmith will find difficulty composing his thoughts online.
4. Passion. The keyword of all.
I salute those people who have endured many years of blogging.
1. Stories are aplenty. But time is not. Hence, penning your thoughts is hardly a walk in the park.
2. Writing becomes a tough nut to crack. Especially when you're caught battling with conflicting priorites.
3. Reason for writing. Without which, even the mightiest swordsmith will find difficulty composing his thoughts online.
4. Passion. The keyword of all.
I salute those people who have endured many years of blogging.
Friday, March 23, 2007
Making Smart Choices
Now this principle rings a bell. The difference between a successful vs nonsuccessful people, materially or otherwise, is the type of smart and critical choices they made in their lifetime. Choosing between eating a meal made of vegetable and fish vs meat and cereal determines long term health benefits.
According to Seth Godin's blog, which I quote below " Is George Clooney actually a great actor? Or is he just great at making choices?
In 1789, you had just a few choices. Work for the potter in town, apprentice with your dad, of, if you were really smart, become a clergyman or possibly a teacher. That was it.
Today, not only do you have more choices, the variations in those choices matter more. Obvious choices, like, "should I quit my job today?", necessary choices like, "should I apply for a job at Google or an insurance company?" and more subtle choices--whether or not to start a blog, for example.
The movie business provides us with a clear window on what happens when people make good choices (and bad ones). Very few people--with the exception of Sean Connery or Daniel Craig--have the option of sticking with one movie forever. Everyone else in the industry makes critical choices on a regular basis. Smart choice makers do far better than those that don't work at it. I'm willing to guess the value of smart choices is responsible for a 10 to 100 times difference in lifetime earnings in Hollywood."
Now how's that to make your day?!
According to Seth Godin's blog, which I quote below " Is George Clooney actually a great actor? Or is he just great at making choices?
In 1789, you had just a few choices. Work for the potter in town, apprentice with your dad, of, if you were really smart, become a clergyman or possibly a teacher. That was it.
Today, not only do you have more choices, the variations in those choices matter more. Obvious choices, like, "should I quit my job today?", necessary choices like, "should I apply for a job at Google or an insurance company?" and more subtle choices--whether or not to start a blog, for example.
The movie business provides us with a clear window on what happens when people make good choices (and bad ones). Very few people--with the exception of Sean Connery or Daniel Craig--have the option of sticking with one movie forever. Everyone else in the industry makes critical choices on a regular basis. Smart choice makers do far better than those that don't work at it. I'm willing to guess the value of smart choices is responsible for a 10 to 100 times difference in lifetime earnings in Hollywood."
Now how's that to make your day?!
Wednesday, March 21, 2007
6 Steps to Enjoying Your True Wealth
My eyes welled when I read below article. Hope you too :)
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6 Steps to Enjoying Your True Wealth
By Bo Sanchez
We were going to Hong Kong that day. I was going to preach for three daysbut had two extra days to be with my family.Picture us at the airport: My wife carrying our baby in her arms, my eldest son bouncing about like a rabbit and announcing to the whole world, "I'm going to Hong Kong Disneyland!" And the poor skinny father? Straining to push eight massive bags on a wobbly cart with a stubborn right wheel. (I've noticed that these deranged carts supernaturally end up with me wherever Igo.)That was when we heard the crying. Correction. Not crying. Butspine-chilling, lung-busting screaming. Two kids were holding onto theirmother. They were separated by four-foot tall steel bars. But to those distraught children, those still bars represented two years of being without their mother --- the contract of a domestic helper in Hong Kong.Four small arms clutching, grabbing, not letting go. The whole world heard their pleading scream, "Mommy, please don't go! Please don't go!"I'll never forget the mother's pained, tortured face --- as though a knife was ripping through her body. My wife cried openly. I wept inside and heldonto my kids more closely.That was two days ago. Yesterday, the story continued...Those small arms continue to reach out.Yesterday was Sunday. And I walked around Central. If you don't know HongKong, Central is where thousands upon thousands of Filipina Domestic Helpers congregate. They sit on sidewalks. They sit by storefronts. I walked passed one woman who was reading a handwritten letter. The handwriting was obviously a child's penmanship. I walked passed another listening to a little cassette player --- not to listen to music --- but to a voice of a kid telling stories. But what broke my heart was the news given to me by Shirley, the head of one organization that tries to help themget financial education. I was shocked by what she said.
"Brother Bo, out ofour 700 members who are married, 80% are already separated from theirhusbands."Families aren't designed for prolonged separation. They're not just made forthat. We're supposed to spend time together.
6 Steps to Spending More Time with Your Family No Matter How Busy You Are"Bo, why are you telling me this? I'm not in Hong Kong. I'm living with my family under one roof."Listen. Yes, you're not in Hong Kong. But if you don't have time for your family --- and your heart is not focused on them --- you might as well be in another country. You could be physically present --- but are you emotionally present as well?Let me share with you five important steps you could take to become more emotionally present with them...
Step #1: Be Close
I'm still in Hong Kong as I write this piece. It's five in the morning as Itype this article in bed. And my little family is literally around me because we're all sleeping on one bed. Yes, we've become one mass jumble of intertwined humanity --- our limbs, legs and arms crisscrossing each other. And that's when I realize --- gosh, I don't know how blessed I am. Why?Here I am with my family. I feel their skin. I smell their scents. We're so close, I feel their breath. And yet, I'm surrounded by 148,000 domestic helpers here in Hong Kong that have been away from their families for months, for years, for decades. And for those who've separated --- forever.Let me say it again: We don't know how blessed we are. We complaint that are families are nutty. But we don't understand how blessed we are to have them close enough to experience their nuttiness. We complain about our pettyquarrels, our cold wars, our dysfunctionality. But whose family isn't dysfunctional? I've talked to some people here in Hong Kong who would give anything to be with their families again --- even for just one day of nuttiness.The first step is to be more emotionally present to your family is to actually be physically present to them. Be close! You need to know how precious your family is --- and treat them that way.You need to see them as your true wealth --- that nothing is more precious than your relationships.
Step #2: Be Deliberate.
Because you need to protect this treasure or they get stolen from you.No matter how busy I am, I schedule a weekly romantic date with my spouse.Yes, I actually write it down in my appointment book and treat it like ameeting with the President of the the country. These weekly nights areblocked off for the entire year. Nothing can touch it, except some direemergency. Why? Because if my marriage fails, everything else stands to failas well: My ministry, my businesses, my soul... So it is an emergency that Ibring her out every week.I also schedule a weekly date with my kids. I believe parents need to dothese one-on-one dates with each of their kids. Unless of course you've got18 children and may need to bring them out by two's or three's. Sometimes myson and I just walk around the village and talk. It doesn't have to be big.But swapping stories and opening our hearts to one another on a consistentbasis is already very big to them. It means they matter to you --- that youvalue them --- and you'll see their self-esteem grow.
Step #3: Be Expressive.
I tell my wife "I love you" seven times a day. I hug my kids countless oftimes a day. At night, I tell my kids,
"I'm so proud you're my son.
I'm so proud I'm your Daddy.
You're a genius.
You're a loving boy.
You're an incredibly gifted young man..."
This is true. I have met 40-year olds who long to hear these words from their parents --- I'm proud of you", and feel an empty gaping wound in their souls because their parents have never told them this. Don't do that to your kids.And before I forget: Praise your kids seven times a day. And praise your spouse seven times a day. I'm not kidding. It will revolutionize your marriage. If I say, "Criticize your spouse seven times a day", I bet you'dsay, "Kaunti naman. I do that already". But that's the problem. We don't realize that when we criticize our spouses, we actually destroy our marriage bit by bit --- not just our spouses. But when you praise and honor yourspouse --- you build up your marriage.It can be very simple stuff:
Ang sarap ng luto mo ngayon,
Hon.I thank God He gave you to me.
You're so hardworking.
I love it when I see you play with the kids.
You know how to make me happy.
Ganda mo ngayon.
Keep on doing this and you'll see changes in your life and your marriage youthought were not possible.Let me say it again: Praise your spouse --- and your children --- seventimes a day.
Step #4: Be Deep.
Your weekly dates shouldn't just be watching movies, eating out and going home.Talk deep.Talk about your feelings.Enter each other's worlds.Dive into each other's dreams, hurts, desires, worries, hopes and burdens.When you open yourself up to your spouse or your child, there are more chances for the other person to open up to you.
Step #5: Be Simple.
Yesterday afternoon, I preached to 700 people in Hong Kong. I usually givemy talks for 45 minutes. That's been my trademark. But yesterday, I gavea solid two-hour talk. Vein-popping, heart-pounding, passion-driven talk ---because I had a burden in my heart. Because I preached on Financial Literacy. I challenged them, "Raise your financial I.Q.!" I scolded them,"When you left the Philippines, you told your kids, "Anak, two years of separation lang 'to. After two years, Mommy will have saved enough and will go home and we'll be together again." But after two years, you go home and you haven't saved. Because you repainted the house. Because there's a new TV set in the living room and a new gas range in the kitchen. Because the kids have new designer rubber shoes.I taught them how to live simply and ruthlessly save 20% of their income.Because unless they do this, they will be forever trapped in Hong Kong.Look at your life.Are you living simply?Are you saving 20% of your income?
Step #6: Be Financially Intelligent.
I also taught them where to invest.I told them, "It's not enough to just save. You need to know where to put your money. Because savings accounts at 1% and time deposits at 5% won't do.Inflation --- which is at 7% --- will simply eat them up."So I taught them about mutual funds and other investment vehicles, including the ability to sell something and get into business. Here's the truth: The more you know about money, the less time you need to make money. So the more time you have for your family. Actually, a time should come when you don't need to make money. And that requires financial intelligence .Read. Attend seminars. Look for mentors.Go Home. After giving my talk, I took a deep breath and told my audience in HongKong, "When you follow these principles and have saved enough --- please go home. Please go home to your children."I made a lot of people cry that day. I'm telling the same thing. Oh yes, you may be living with your family in one house, but it's possible that your heart is so far away from your spouse and kids --- and they are far away from you as well.
You need to let your heart go home.
Go home my friend!
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6 Steps to Enjoying Your True Wealth
By Bo Sanchez
We were going to Hong Kong that day. I was going to preach for three daysbut had two extra days to be with my family.Picture us at the airport: My wife carrying our baby in her arms, my eldest son bouncing about like a rabbit and announcing to the whole world, "I'm going to Hong Kong Disneyland!" And the poor skinny father? Straining to push eight massive bags on a wobbly cart with a stubborn right wheel. (I've noticed that these deranged carts supernaturally end up with me wherever Igo.)That was when we heard the crying. Correction. Not crying. Butspine-chilling, lung-busting screaming. Two kids were holding onto theirmother. They were separated by four-foot tall steel bars. But to those distraught children, those still bars represented two years of being without their mother --- the contract of a domestic helper in Hong Kong.Four small arms clutching, grabbing, not letting go. The whole world heard their pleading scream, "Mommy, please don't go! Please don't go!"I'll never forget the mother's pained, tortured face --- as though a knife was ripping through her body. My wife cried openly. I wept inside and heldonto my kids more closely.That was two days ago. Yesterday, the story continued...Those small arms continue to reach out.Yesterday was Sunday. And I walked around Central. If you don't know HongKong, Central is where thousands upon thousands of Filipina Domestic Helpers congregate. They sit on sidewalks. They sit by storefronts. I walked passed one woman who was reading a handwritten letter. The handwriting was obviously a child's penmanship. I walked passed another listening to a little cassette player --- not to listen to music --- but to a voice of a kid telling stories. But what broke my heart was the news given to me by Shirley, the head of one organization that tries to help themget financial education. I was shocked by what she said.
"Brother Bo, out ofour 700 members who are married, 80% are already separated from theirhusbands."Families aren't designed for prolonged separation. They're not just made forthat. We're supposed to spend time together.
6 Steps to Spending More Time with Your Family No Matter How Busy You Are"Bo, why are you telling me this? I'm not in Hong Kong. I'm living with my family under one roof."Listen. Yes, you're not in Hong Kong. But if you don't have time for your family --- and your heart is not focused on them --- you might as well be in another country. You could be physically present --- but are you emotionally present as well?Let me share with you five important steps you could take to become more emotionally present with them...
Step #1: Be Close
I'm still in Hong Kong as I write this piece. It's five in the morning as Itype this article in bed. And my little family is literally around me because we're all sleeping on one bed. Yes, we've become one mass jumble of intertwined humanity --- our limbs, legs and arms crisscrossing each other. And that's when I realize --- gosh, I don't know how blessed I am. Why?Here I am with my family. I feel their skin. I smell their scents. We're so close, I feel their breath. And yet, I'm surrounded by 148,000 domestic helpers here in Hong Kong that have been away from their families for months, for years, for decades. And for those who've separated --- forever.Let me say it again: We don't know how blessed we are. We complaint that are families are nutty. But we don't understand how blessed we are to have them close enough to experience their nuttiness. We complain about our pettyquarrels, our cold wars, our dysfunctionality. But whose family isn't dysfunctional? I've talked to some people here in Hong Kong who would give anything to be with their families again --- even for just one day of nuttiness.The first step is to be more emotionally present to your family is to actually be physically present to them. Be close! You need to know how precious your family is --- and treat them that way.You need to see them as your true wealth --- that nothing is more precious than your relationships.
Step #2: Be Deliberate.
Because you need to protect this treasure or they get stolen from you.No matter how busy I am, I schedule a weekly romantic date with my spouse.Yes, I actually write it down in my appointment book and treat it like ameeting with the President of the the country. These weekly nights areblocked off for the entire year. Nothing can touch it, except some direemergency. Why? Because if my marriage fails, everything else stands to failas well: My ministry, my businesses, my soul... So it is an emergency that Ibring her out every week.I also schedule a weekly date with my kids. I believe parents need to dothese one-on-one dates with each of their kids. Unless of course you've got18 children and may need to bring them out by two's or three's. Sometimes myson and I just walk around the village and talk. It doesn't have to be big.But swapping stories and opening our hearts to one another on a consistentbasis is already very big to them. It means they matter to you --- that youvalue them --- and you'll see their self-esteem grow.
Step #3: Be Expressive.
I tell my wife "I love you" seven times a day. I hug my kids countless oftimes a day. At night, I tell my kids,
"I'm so proud you're my son.
I'm so proud I'm your Daddy.
You're a genius.
You're a loving boy.
You're an incredibly gifted young man..."
This is true. I have met 40-year olds who long to hear these words from their parents --- I'm proud of you", and feel an empty gaping wound in their souls because their parents have never told them this. Don't do that to your kids.And before I forget: Praise your kids seven times a day. And praise your spouse seven times a day. I'm not kidding. It will revolutionize your marriage. If I say, "Criticize your spouse seven times a day", I bet you'dsay, "Kaunti naman. I do that already". But that's the problem. We don't realize that when we criticize our spouses, we actually destroy our marriage bit by bit --- not just our spouses. But when you praise and honor yourspouse --- you build up your marriage.It can be very simple stuff:
Ang sarap ng luto mo ngayon,
Hon.I thank God He gave you to me.
You're so hardworking.
I love it when I see you play with the kids.
You know how to make me happy.
Ganda mo ngayon.
Keep on doing this and you'll see changes in your life and your marriage youthought were not possible.Let me say it again: Praise your spouse --- and your children --- seventimes a day.
Step #4: Be Deep.
Your weekly dates shouldn't just be watching movies, eating out and going home.Talk deep.Talk about your feelings.Enter each other's worlds.Dive into each other's dreams, hurts, desires, worries, hopes and burdens.When you open yourself up to your spouse or your child, there are more chances for the other person to open up to you.
Step #5: Be Simple.
Yesterday afternoon, I preached to 700 people in Hong Kong. I usually givemy talks for 45 minutes. That's been my trademark. But yesterday, I gavea solid two-hour talk. Vein-popping, heart-pounding, passion-driven talk ---because I had a burden in my heart. Because I preached on Financial Literacy. I challenged them, "Raise your financial I.Q.!" I scolded them,"When you left the Philippines, you told your kids, "Anak, two years of separation lang 'to. After two years, Mommy will have saved enough and will go home and we'll be together again." But after two years, you go home and you haven't saved. Because you repainted the house. Because there's a new TV set in the living room and a new gas range in the kitchen. Because the kids have new designer rubber shoes.I taught them how to live simply and ruthlessly save 20% of their income.Because unless they do this, they will be forever trapped in Hong Kong.Look at your life.Are you living simply?Are you saving 20% of your income?
Step #6: Be Financially Intelligent.
I also taught them where to invest.I told them, "It's not enough to just save. You need to know where to put your money. Because savings accounts at 1% and time deposits at 5% won't do.Inflation --- which is at 7% --- will simply eat them up."So I taught them about mutual funds and other investment vehicles, including the ability to sell something and get into business. Here's the truth: The more you know about money, the less time you need to make money. So the more time you have for your family. Actually, a time should come when you don't need to make money. And that requires financial intelligence .Read. Attend seminars. Look for mentors.Go Home. After giving my talk, I took a deep breath and told my audience in HongKong, "When you follow these principles and have saved enough --- please go home. Please go home to your children."I made a lot of people cry that day. I'm telling the same thing. Oh yes, you may be living with your family in one house, but it's possible that your heart is so far away from your spouse and kids --- and they are far away from you as well.
You need to let your heart go home.
Go home my friend!
Thursday, March 15, 2007
Perception is Reality
I saw this ad on one US Based communications group. The bullets talk about
Move minds.
Influence Decisions
Alter Beliefs
Create Relatioships
Initiate Dialogue
Provoke a Smile
- This is what perception can do -
True or False? You be the judge!
Move minds.
Influence Decisions
Alter Beliefs
Create Relatioships
Initiate Dialogue
Provoke a Smile
- This is what perception can do -
True or False? You be the judge!
Tuesday, March 13, 2007
Frugality : Secret of Business
While browsing the web, I found this interesting outline. It lists one age old business practice applied by Chinese folks in most Asian economies. You may call it the 10 commandments of starting a small business-the Chinese way.
"One very traditional way of proceeding in family business development is to operate the small business enterprise through conservative and traditional financial strategies: targetting to obtain income through small investments.
The ideal in this financial strategy is to obtain for big financial returns on small investments.
In line with the traditional and conservative method of investing cited above,
-. capitalization is therefore low, capital expenditures is not big,
-. and working fund requirements are thus kept to a minimum.
1. The head of the family can thus start with a car, a computer system, a fax machine, landline and mobile phones. As regards utilities expense of both office and store, they are integrated into the household's and family's expenses.
2. As starters, in founding the family business, part of the house is converted into office space and store space, in order to save on rental fees.
3. The prospecting of clients and customers, and the use of banks, are focused within the area of the house/office to save on gasoline expense.
4. Also, if the family lives near the Catholic parish, the family business can also have business contacts and customers from among the Catholic population of the parish.
5. Employees and working personnel are members of the family. This saves a lot on salaries and wages.
6. Also, the clannish and extended family setting of Asians, most especially the Chinese and Filipinos, can be used to obtain more help from relatives. In this set-up, any member of this extended family business system can have his or her own small business and share the benefits of the connections of the extended family system. The Chinese call this network, guanx hi.
7. For starters, in order to gain income and reduce income tax expense, the family business can be initially known as part of the informal business sector in order to gain the benefits of tax exemptions from the government.
8. This family business will be developed and built well, and have an increase in initial growth when the working hours are made flexible.
9. The extra added services gain more loyal customers, the stabilization of a client base, and lots of repeat sales and business.
10. As the family business develops more its technological knowhow and constantly upgrades its communication systems and computers, operating costs in running the business are lessened in the long run. A good communication and computer system can lessen the need to make trips and thus lessen gasoline expenses.
Unqoute"
"One very traditional way of proceeding in family business development is to operate the small business enterprise through conservative and traditional financial strategies: targetting to obtain income through small investments.
The ideal in this financial strategy is to obtain for big financial returns on small investments.
In line with the traditional and conservative method of investing cited above,
-. capitalization is therefore low, capital expenditures is not big,
-. and working fund requirements are thus kept to a minimum.
1. The head of the family can thus start with a car, a computer system, a fax machine, landline and mobile phones. As regards utilities expense of both office and store, they are integrated into the household's and family's expenses.
2. As starters, in founding the family business, part of the house is converted into office space and store space, in order to save on rental fees.
3. The prospecting of clients and customers, and the use of banks, are focused within the area of the house/office to save on gasoline expense.
4. Also, if the family lives near the Catholic parish, the family business can also have business contacts and customers from among the Catholic population of the parish.
5. Employees and working personnel are members of the family. This saves a lot on salaries and wages.
6. Also, the clannish and extended family setting of Asians, most especially the Chinese and Filipinos, can be used to obtain more help from relatives. In this set-up, any member of this extended family business system can have his or her own small business and share the benefits of the connections of the extended family system. The Chinese call this network, guanx hi.
7. For starters, in order to gain income and reduce income tax expense, the family business can be initially known as part of the informal business sector in order to gain the benefits of tax exemptions from the government.
8. This family business will be developed and built well, and have an increase in initial growth when the working hours are made flexible.
9. The extra added services gain more loyal customers, the stabilization of a client base, and lots of repeat sales and business.
10. As the family business develops more its technological knowhow and constantly upgrades its communication systems and computers, operating costs in running the business are lessened in the long run. A good communication and computer system can lessen the need to make trips and thus lessen gasoline expenses.
Unqoute"
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