The words "Less" and "Fish" starkly contrasts between a civilized vs non civilized man..
Being selfish means having the "me' mentality. Selfless means the 'you' mentality. All throughout history, great leaders, men and women alike cultivates and nurtures the 'you' mindset. In order to lead, one should consider 'others needs' first. The crucial turning point is - one has to be able to keep one's bucket full in order to give. After all, you cannot give what you don't have.
Take time for example. If you dont have time for yourself (or not organized or efficient enough) how can you give time to others.
Or self respect. Or even a simple gracious act. If one is nurtured and brought up cultivating these virtues or manners overly practiced at home, then one should be able to outflow these to the outside world.
Everything, not just charity, begins at home. And its not the big acts, is those small ones!
Being selfish means having the "me' mentality. Selfless means the 'you' mentality. All throughout history, great leaders, men and women alike cultivates and nurtures the 'you' mindset. In order to lead, one should consider 'others needs' first. The crucial turning point is - one has to be able to keep one's bucket full in order to give. After all, you cannot give what you don't have.
Take time for example. If you dont have time for yourself (or not organized or efficient enough) how can you give time to others.
Or self respect. Or even a simple gracious act. If one is nurtured and brought up cultivating these virtues or manners overly practiced at home, then one should be able to outflow these to the outside world.
Everything, not just charity, begins at home. And its not the big acts, is those small ones!
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Selfish and selfless appear to be two concepts on opposite poles. Question is should we take it as black or white, good or evil?
To be selfless is ideal. But is it even achievable in its purest form? Some would argue that to be selfless is still a self-driven desire and therefore cannot be separated from self.Well we could argue for all we want.In my own opinion, to find the balance between the two is more harmonious to self and others.Two things come to mind as i say this. First, selflessness should not mean being selfish to one's self.As the author said and i reiterate, how can you give what you dont have? This principle is best exemplified in Maslow's hiearchy of needs, where moving from the concept of "self" to "others" is a process of satisfying the basic needs first. Second,as we deny "self" for others may we be careful not to cultivate selfishness in them.
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